Living and loving the life you have

Posted by on Jun 7, 2013 in Personal Development | 10 comments

I wasn’t happy most of my life. I worried about what what other people thought of me. I attached my well-being to other people’s behavior. I was troubled by my thoughts and feelings. I worked hard every day to be perfect, to be worthy, to be whole.

I wanted a better life yet I believed I wouldn’t be happy until…   until I got someone else to approve of me…   until someone else behaved the way I wanted them to behave…   until I achieved some certain status such as marriage or promotion…   until I overcame all my shortcomings and became the most caring, most compassionate, most helpful, smartest, most successful person I could be…         until life got good.

I didn’t experience true happiness until I starting living and loving the life I have- not the life I wanted, the life I dreamed of, the life I wish I had- the life I have. Right now, today.

Sure, there were things I wanted to change. There were things I needed to change. I’m always reaching, growing, and changing for the better. But my happiness doesn’t come from the future- it’s right here, now.

To achieve the life I wanted I had to start living and loving the life I have today. The more I allowed myself to relax and enjoy each day, the more I enjoyed life and the more progress I made on the things I did want to change. It’s funny how it works that way.

I invite you to live and love the life you have today.


Let go of judgements and expectations. Stop waiting for everything to work out. Accept yourself as you are- perfectly imperfect.


Embrace all of life’s gifts- big and small. Be joyful for the sake of being joyful- not because something good happened. Celebrate your life- celebrate you!


It’s simple, really, even if just for a day, an hour, or a minute- be in love with your life just as it is today.

Source: via Chrysta on Pinterest


I love your comments! What will it take for you to be in the love with your life today? What’s holding you back that you will let go? How will you relax into this day instead of struggling against it?


  1. You sound like so many other people, me included Chrysta that were waiting for those perfect moments. It really took a lot of education on my part to finally understand that we’ll never get to that place until we start right now. That simple message you just shared is exactly that, simple.

    Get up everyday thanking God for what you do have instead of what you wish you could have and you’ll soon wake up one day and realize that you now have everything you ever wanted. Funny how that works but boy is it the truth.

    Thank you for sharing this message and being so vulnerable. You definitely got that message across and it’s always great when we know we’re not all alone in our way of thinking.

    Enjoy your week young lady and you also have a very grateful day!


    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Adrienne!

      Isn’t it great when you get to the point you realize you already have what you need to be happy?! I love that feeling. It not only helps me have more happiness in life, I spend less time and money on stuff I don’t really need- I already have everything I need! :)

      Have a fantastic week!


  2. Hi Chrysta,

    I love this post. It uplifted me; and on a Monday morning I needed that :-)

    The real message is to live in the moment. Be grateful right now. We need to be reminded of that now and then :-)


    • Thanks for the awesome comment, Liz!

      You are so right- this post really is about living in the moment! I need to be reminded of it, too, like I was when I read your comment.

      Thanks so much for stopping by! Have a grateful day!


  3. Hi Chrysta

    It is amazing how messed up we get by just living. Wish I knew all that I know today, when I was growing up. Life would have been so different. I remember as a teenager thinking that I would do my time and then get out. Sounds like a prison sentence, but at times it felt that way.

    In desperation we sometimes make poor choices and don’t follow what we set out to do and then regret it later.

    I am not raising a child today, but it would be wonderful if parents to be could learn that happiness comes from within and teach that to their tiny offspring. We might end up seeing happier adults. Happier adults means less crime and a more peaceful civilization for all.


    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Mary!

      I have had many life experiences I saw as a prison sentence, too, and it’s so sad to waste a perfectly good life thinking life must be endured and the good stuff always comes later. Life is what you make it, so why not make the most of it!

      I agree that if more children grew up being happier and living life on life’s terms there would be less crime and a more peaceful civilization. We’re raised to look outside ourselves for approval and to think we can’t be happy without it- no wonder so many people are unhappy!

      I’m not raising any children, either, but I do believe a positive attitude positively effects everyone. Maybe I can rub some good on parents I know.

      Have a grateful day!


  4. Thanks so much for sharing your inspiring message and example Chrysta. I can certainly understand where you’re coming from. I was bullied all through high school. Which would have been bad enough, but as an ACOA there really was no place for me to find peace. In fact in my junior year I bought a suitcase and set it in a corner of my room – as a promise to myself – the day after I graduated i packed that bag and walked out the door. It took a LOT of years to work through that and learn what happiness feels like.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Marty!

      I, too, am an ACOA and it took me a long time to find peace and happiness. Like you, I made a promise to myself to create a better life than the one I grew up in and look at both of us today! I truly believe there is no situation too difficult to be bettered, and no unhappiness too great to be lessened. No matter the circumstances, it’s possible to find some happiness.

      Have a grateful day!


  5. Chrysta,

    I am 100% with you – love the life you have right now, in this moment. What I really appreciate is that you leave room for stress and self doubt too. The permission to do it for the day, an hour or a minute is the perfect place to start.

    Thanks for the invitation to join the journey – it’s a great one to be on!


    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Alli!

      I find I must leave room for stress and self doubt, and that these things do not have to lessen my enjoyment of life- they are just experiences I can observe and learn from. Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.

      Have a grateful day!


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