Your Coworkers Are Not As Annoying As You Think They Are

Posted by on Jun 15, 2012 in Work Relationships | 8 comments

Annoying coworkers- everything they do is irritating. Annoying coworkers can be recognized by their laziness, over-sharing, obnoxious habits, poor communication, lack of hygiene- you name it! I’ve been there, you’ve been there, we’ve all been there.

What if you annoying coworkers aren’t really all that annoying? Not true, you may insist as you prepare a list of your coworkers annoying traits. Well I have news for you- your coworkers are not as annoying as you think they are.

I’m not talking about difficult people here- those people that create a toxic and hostile work environment. What I am talking about are those people that just irritate you, even though they’re really decent human beings, whether or not you like them.

What I experience at work and in life is largely a result of my attitudes and perceptions. What I’m trying to say is it’s not them, it’s you. The good news is there’s really nothing you can do about a truly annoying coworker but there is a lot you can do about your experience!

If you’re still with me, perhaps you’re wondering if this is the point that I offer some ideas to turn your experience from negative to positive. This most definitely is that point so do please read on for some tips to make your annoying coworkers seem downright likeable!


Annoyed kitteh....  is annoyed.

How to change your attitude from annoyed to enjoyed!

Make friends

Try becoming friends with your annoying coworker. You may find those annoying habits seem less annoying when you really get to know someone.

Getting to know the whole person, instead of a laundry list of habits, can help you appreciate the great qualities they possess. It’s much easier to overlook the not-so-good when you see the good, too. Perspective is good for your mental health!

Be complimentary

A great way to connect with another person is to compliment them. Find a stellar quality in the other person and tell them how much you admire that quality. In my experience it’s impossible to feel annoyed and appreciative at the same time!

Embrace diversity

The modern workplace is a melting pot. Differences in culture, values, status, and personality can lead to stress and conflict.

When you don’t see eye-to-eye with someone, use this opportunity to accept others as they are. There’s more than one way to get the job done and your way is not the right way. Everyone is different and that’s okay.

Stop complaining

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, if you want to be happy- stop complaining. Sure, you may have legitimate complaints, don’t we all, but repeating your complaints over and over again only makes you unreasonable and unhappy!

If you stop complaining about your so-called annoying coworkers you may soon find you don’t actually find them all that annoying after all.

Be your best

The best way to take your mind off another person’s annoying behavior is to focus on your own behavior. What’s on your to-do list? What are your goals?

Put your mind to work on your work. You’ll enjoy the satisfaction that comes from a job well done! You may even show your awesome talents leading to a raise or promotion!

Take care of you!

I am far more likely to be irritable when I’m hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.

If you’re not taking care of you it’s a good bet you’re going to be more easily annoyed.  If you find yourself feeling annoyed, do something nice for you.

What you experience is up to you

It’s a basic human truth that the people around us are bound to annoy us from time-to-time, but if you want a positive experience at work it’s important to adjust your perceptions and attitudes.

The more you focus your problems and stress on those things outside you (other people, places, and things), the more likely you are to be annoyed, stressed and unhappy. If you blame other people for your experience then what you experience is at the mercy of your coworkers.

However, when you take responsibility for what you experience you can have more great days, and realize your coworkers really aren’t that annoying. Or at least they no longer annoy you!

I love your comments! Are your coworkers as annoying as you think they are? What other ways do you adjust your experience for the better?

8 Comments

  1. Hi Chrysta,
    I totally get what you are saying “it’s not them, it’s you”. It is so true that it is our attitude that makes all the difference when it comes to all kinds of relationships, co-workers or others. But another aspect that comes to mind is that sometimes we just aren’t compatible with some people. That is my experience at least. Sometimes I meet someone and we get along right away and other times I don’t even exchange 2 words with a person and I already don’t like them.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Mariella!

      I agree not all people are compatible, and I certainly won’t like everyone I meet. I do, however, choose to live a great life and in my experience feeling at odds with people I work closely with is an un-great feeling. Because I choose not to feel this way, I’m going to try something different by adjusting my attitude and perceptions wherever possible so my personal experience is as good as it can be!

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  2. Hey Chrysta,

    I’m SO glad I’m not in the corporate world anymore. Probably the last four years I found some of my co-workers more annoying as time went by. Okay, not sure really if annoying is the right word. How about lazy, gossipers, backstabbers, those were the types of people I had to deal with.

    I did my best to always smile, be nice and not take their actions personally. I did pretty good most days while others, totally lost it.

    These are really great tips though and I can see why they would come in handy. Always be the bigger person right!

    Thanks Chrysta, you always know what to say at the right times. I’m sure others will really find this list helpful.

    ~Adrienne

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Adrienne!

      Working in the corporate world has positives and negatives, to be sure. For some reason working in that environment with others seems to draw out irritation and frustration more than other environments I’ve worked in- is it the same for you?

      I completely relate to handling it well most days and loosing it other days- it happens to the best of us! I love writing posts like this because it reminds me I get to choose how I respond instead of just reacting in the moment. I hope it helps others as much as it helps me.

      Thanks for stopping by! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  3. Great advice, as always.

    Whenever I realise that I have a problem with a person I try to find something good about them – ideally something that I can praise them for – and focus on that instead of the things that I find irksome about them. It usually works (for me at least).

    If all else fails, I try to remind myself that they might be right and I could be wrong. It’s not entirely out of the question more often than not.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Hamish!

      I love the tip you shared and I agree it’s a great way to set aside irritation and find some common ground!

      I also agree that remembering I’m not always right about everything is a great way to stay humble and happy. Whenever I put myself above or beneath other people, I’m usually not very happy.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  4. Great message and advice. If I may, I have one other tip to add. I think it helps to take the time to figure out exactly what it is about the person that annoys you. Sometimes it’s a particular habit, sometimes there’s actually an opportunity to change the situation for the better with a bit of honesty. For a time I shared an office with a woman who used to play loud music all afternoon and it drove me crazy, because I prefer to work in a quiet atmosphere. Pretty soon everything she did began to annoy me. I finally sucked it up and explained the problem to her and she started using ear phones. It was such a simple solution!

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Marty!

      I love the tip you shared, it’s another great way to move beyond irritation to harmony! I agree sometimes something as simple as talking to someone honestly can solve a lot of problems.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

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