Comparing ourselves to others, even to our idea of what we could be, is perhaps human nature. But comparison robs us of our confidence, our accomplishments, our worth.
I still catch myself comparing from time-to-time, and I’ve come up with some ways to re-direct my attention from what I perceive someone else has to the awesomeness in my life. I recognize my awesome skills and abilities, and the unique contribution I have to make to the world. I learn from other people’s successes and mistakes. I find ways to motivate myself to make progress on my goals.
Acknowledge your choices.
When I compare myself to others, I often conveniently overlook the choices and hard work they have made to get where they are today. I may not be willing to make sacrifices they made, or endure the hardships they faced to reach their goals.
I’m happy with my choices and my life, and I have the opportunity to make different choices at any time, on any day. I’m living a life that works for me, and that means I achieve success at my own pace.
Recognize your limitations.
“Never compare your beginning to somebody else’s middle.” ~Jon Acuff
When I find myself comparing, I consider if the person I’m comparing myself to simply has more experience. Of course I won’t be as successful as someone with years of experience when I’m just getting started.
Learn from someone else’s experience.
When I meet someone that has success I want I have the option to jump-start my success by learning from their experience. I can ask a more successful person to coach or mentor me. If they are unable to work with me long term, they may be willing to answer a few questions about what they’ve learned. I have an opportunity to develop a valuable contact, and maybe even a friend.
Make progress on your goals.
When I find myself comparing myself to others, I stop making progress on my goals. When I redirect my attention and efforts to my purpose, I stop worrying about what anyone else has. It doesn’t matter what someone else does, it matters what I do. I use this energy to motivate me.
Embrace your unique perspective!
I have my own voice, my own experience, and my own talents that no one else has! My gift to the world comes through sharing my unique perspective, not copying someone else’s. When I compare myself to others I minimize what’s great about me- something no one else can be. Making your own mark on the world builds confidence and lasting success.
Celebrate your success!
“Other people’s success is not an indication of your failure.” ~Jon Acuff
I see people with what I perceive to be greater success, and for a moment I envy them. Then I take a moment to reflect on my life and my success and realize I’m happy with where I am today.
Today I’m right where I need to be to learn what I need to learn, to enjoy the peace that comes with patience, to allow myself to keep pace with my success.
When you start comparing yourself to others, think of ways to leverage your experience to motivate and grow yourself!
I love your comments! How do you get past comparing yourself to others? How will you celebrate your progress today? How will you use someone else’s success to inspire you?
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