How to have a great day (almost) every day!

Posted by on Nov 11, 2011 in Personal Development | 20 comments

Since starting this blog I’ve empowered my goal of living a great life and having a great day every day. I’m pleased to say I’ve had far more good days than bad, and the abundance of good days help get me through the bad days that happen from time-to-time.

As I practice the positive, healthy behaviors and attitudes I write about, I enjoy more happiness and more success! I sleep better, feel better, and more opportunities come my way. I make greater progress towards my goals, and my co-workers are more pleasant, or so it seems to me thanks to my positive outlook.

Here’s how I live a great life and experience great days:

1. Decide to have a good day.
Say it out loud, “I’m going to have a great day today!” Making the decision to have a positive experience determines your mood, your attitude, and your approach to your day.

Once you’ve decided to have a good day, other people will be attracted to your positive energy and are more likely to approach you with a smile.

2. Be productive.
Completing a simple task or accomplishing a personal goal feels great!

You can get satisfaction out of tasks you don’t particularly enjoy if you appreciate the results of your efforts- even if the result is crossing an annoying item off your to-do list and moving on to something you enjoy!

Better yet, spend time working towards one of your goals. Do at least one activity in pursuit of what’s important to you.

3. Stop stereotyping your day.
I often hear people express dread when Monday comes around again, as if Monday is inherently a bad day. Monday is just day like any other and it’s as good or as bad as you make it out to be.

You can have a great Monday and a terrible Friday. It’s true I enjoy Friday for my beginning of the weekend routine, and look forward to two days of fun and rest. I also enjoy Monday for the beginning of the week routine I’ve created for myself.

have a great day

4. Let the little things go.
Many of the bad things that happen in your day are really just minor annoyances that don’t have any more power over your day than you give them.

So someone cut you off in traffic or you spilled coffee on your shirt. Do either of these events have a significant impact on your life? Do you still have a job? Your home? Your health? Your family? Don’t sweat the small stuff.

5. You don’t need everything to go your way to be happy.
Happiness is not something that happens to you, it’s something you choose. When you feel happy, you’re embracing appreciation and joy in your heart. Resist thinking you can’t have a good day unless things work out the way you want.

If something doesn’t go your way, recognize it for what it is. Perhaps you feel disappointment. Acknowledging these feelings as simply feelings can keep negative emotions from defining your day. Disappointment can be disappointment, and you can still be happy and have a great day!

6. Practice makes progress.
Perhaps you thought I was going to write, “practice makes perfect”, but I don’t believe in perfect. I believe in progress.

Just for today, let go of the belief you won’t be happy until… Be happy now for all the great things in your life right now. Nobody has a perfect life and no one ever will. So practice positive habits every day and you’ll quickly find that you’re experiencing a great life even when life challenges you.

I love your comments! How do you have a great day? What does a great life look like to you?

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20 Comments

  1. i DONT GET how all yall just say all this stuff its hard to do. I would love to feel like things don’t bother me but they do. I can’t seem to find that its just simple life I make things so complicated. I would really love some advice on how to just do it versus saying it and I keep reading and reading but it doesn’t help. something doesn’t click in my head I’m so depressed and hate life I feel miserable all the time. I have no clue how to just be happy I worry to much about WHAT IF’S or things that irrelevant to my life. I take things into much detail in my head and I worry about people I shouldn’t please help!

    • Thanks for your comment, Rebecca!

      It IS hard- absolutely! It’s taken me a lifetime of practice to get to where I am today, and sometimes I slip into miserable old ways of thinking and feeling. What worked for me was focusing on the basics.

      For me the most important aspect was self care. It’s impossible for me to feel good about anything when I don’t feel good inside myself. I started implementing a series of self care habits such as getting enough sleep every night, eating three meals a day, and you get the idea. Sometimes I wrote myself a list of important tasks to do every day, even if those important tasks were as simple as “eat breakfast”. In the past I’ve set an alarm to remind me to go to bed at a reasonable time.

      When I started focusing on making small improvements, I hated my life and I hated myself, but that didn’t stop me from refusing to accept a life of suffering and misery. I didn’t know how to turn it around and so I kept moving forward, one step at a time.

      I also joined various support groups where I had the support and encouragement of other people struggling with similar struggles. The groups I’ve been part of weren’t always enjoyable or fun but looking back on my life I can see they had a huge impact on my health and happiness.

      I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling right now, Rebecca. I believe your life can get better- you can get better! Please feel free to email me at chrysta.bairre@gmail.com anytime.

      Chrysta

  2. Chrysta, This post had me nodding yes, yes, yes! I strive to live my life by these mindsets. It really is true that you set your own happiness and don’t let others get you down.

    Thanks for your comment on my blog today, you were the first person to be able to read it as the blog has been down for two days. BUT, I didn’t let it get me down. Nope, I threw myself into yard work and fixing things.

    I hope to meet you at Blissdom as well.

    Brittany aka Pretty Handy Girl

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Brittany! I’m thrilled to hear you enjoyed reading this post and that you, too, strive to make the best of your day, every day.

      Despite all my positive practices, I felt stressed when my blog goes down for 2 hours, let alone 2 days! Ah well, life is all about progress and maybe next time my blog goes down I’ll take a cue from you and find something productive to do with my time when I can’t blog. It’s all a work in progress, isn’t it?

      I’m so excited for BlissDom and all the lovely people I’m meeting online before the conference!

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  3. I love this post and these are all things that I try to make a conscious decision to try to do everyday.

    • Thanks for your comment, Emma! I’m happy to hear you use some of these tips to have a great day. I’d like to see more people having a great day every day, and I hope your good example rubs off on the people around you. :)

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  4. Hey Chrysta,

    This is truly an outstanding post! You’re absolutely right about what one needs to do in order to ensure that “today” is going to be AWESOME!! :)

    It’s certainly a choice that we make about how our day turns out.

    In the past, I would sometimes let the simplest things ruin my entire day. It could be something as minute as they gave me cold coffee at Starbucks. The rest of my day would totally be off.

    Then I read this little book called, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.” That was a couple of years ago; now I am entirely grateful for each and every day that I’m able to see as though I were looking through a new pair of eyes.

    My eyes aren’t new, but every single day that I’m given certainly is. 😉

    If a person considers how quickly this life can be taken away; it would help them to make a better decisions on how Absolutely AWESOME today (or any day for that matter) will be.

    Thank you for sharing this post. :)

    • I am grateful for your awesome comment, Deeone!

      I haven’t read “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” but I am familiar with the title, and just the simple concept of it all being small stuff is a great reminder to me that it’s how I respond to my life that is a greater influence on my happiness. I love this idea so much and it helps me keep minor annoyances in perspective. It is truly the only way I want to live!

      I have survived violence, illness and poverty and because of those experiences I know how great life truly can be when I choose to see it that way. Even in the midst of my darkest hour, I always had reason to hope. My life has truly been what I continue to make of it, and I am making something pretty great. I’m so happy to have amazing and inspiring people like you around me!

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  5. Chrysta,

    Your response makes things clearer for me. I knew there was something different about your post the moment I read it.

    You’ve been there, done that and got the T-shirt from the sound of things. Hence the reason your writing has sincerity and depth.

    My congratulations to you – keep on enjoying yourself. :)

    I’ll be back to read more in future!

    • I am very touched by your reply, Hamish, thank you for your kind words. One of my favorite blogging gifts is getting to engage other inspiring, open and positive people!

      Namaste,

      Chrysta

  6. Hello Chrysta,

    What a great post – some rules to live by there. Speaking as someone who has, in the past, been stressed to the point of illness, I can say that adopting your points above will help anyone to be happier, more productive and generally more content with their life.

    I especially like the “practice makes progress” concept. There aren’t too many deeply satisfied perfectionists around I suspect.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Hamish!

      I have also been stressed to the point of illness, and that was one of the major influences in focusing on a living a happier, more positive life. At the time I was ill, I didn’t realize how my choices were contributing to my overall health but once I started truly focusing on letting go and enjoying my day I was no longer getting sick as often. What an improvement it has made!

      While I have held on to my attention to detail and reliability, I am so relieved to have let go of my perfectionism. As you said, there are no deeply satisfied perfectionists!

      Thanks for your comment! Have a wonderful day!

      Chrysta

  7. Ah, what a wonderful message Chrysta!

    I start each day off by just thanking God for what I have in my life. That also includes having a fabulous and terrific day.

    I know a lot of people continue to hear the phrase, “what you think about you bring about”. Well, they hear it constantly because it’s so true. The thoughts you think are what will come into your life whether it’s immediately or eventually. Like the example you gave about people hating Monday’s. It’s a start of a new week, they aren’t excited to go to their jobs and just not thrilled with their lives overall. Whatever the reasons are, that day will be a drag because they are already thinking to themselves that it will be.

    Life is a choice so you can chose to be miserable or you can chose to be happy. Personally, I’ll go with happy any day of the week. Your tips above should be able to help anyone take the happy road.

    • I love your attitude, Adrienne! Thank you for being an inspiration to me!

      Try as I might, I have found I can’t control what happens in my day, and I can control my attitude about it! I’m never guaranteed to have a good or bad day, but how I approach my day may determine my actions and reactions to what happens.

      I have also noticed that when I am positive and hopeful, other positive and hopeful people are attracted to me and that is what I experience. When I am gloomy it is the gloomy people that approach me.

      Thanks for your comments, your inspiration, your guidance and your wisdom! I am truly grateful to know you!

      Chrysta

  8. Thank you for such an amazing post Chrysta, very inspiring :) All great tips, I look forward to more posts from you. Rochelle.

    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Rochelle! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post.

      Please come back again.

      Chrysta

  9. Hi Chrysta,

    Very wonderfully crafted post .
    These tips are excellent. These days we only hear about crisis, mayhem, problems and issues. Rarely the media is interested in bringing out stories that have made a difference to others. Even if it does, the news is not very prominent.
    Infact I feel that stress at the workplace and overall in life has increased. The more demands we have the more we are stressed out.
    I think that a blog post like this which actually help us to channelize our energies to positive impact is a refreshing change . I really feel good when I find that there are people like you who feel that there is something more to life than just worrying ( for e.g. about money all the time).
    If people start working on each point of the post, I think they will have far much better way of living than they are doing right now .
    Thanks for sharing this :)

    • I appreciate your awesome comment, Ashvini!

      I, too, have found that stories and articles filled with negatively abound. A great life doesn’t come with an absence of struggle, but both the good and bad must be kept in perspective. As it is easier to focus on the bad things and negative experiences often have a great effect on us, it’s important to really look for the positive in life.

      I certainly hope people will try at least some of the ideas I share in my blog to live a great life. I only write about what has already worked for me, so I know at least it works! We are all different but I do believe any attempt to live a more positive, productive and happy life will benefit anyone and everyone.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  10. Hi Chrysta,
    First off – I just have to completely agree that for me, too – I have found that as I have created my own website and used it as a space of inspiration – I have also just generally been more filled with happy-ness. And I believe it is in direct correlation to me thinking (and writing) more about that – and…our thoughts sure are powerful things, aren’t they!

    And it is “progress”. Just this morning, as I was taking my son to school – a car pulled out in front of me. And I was even trying to tell myself to just “let it go”. And yet…I struggled with doing that. And the thing is – in the end I wasn’t slowed down at all – because we only approached a red traffic light a few seconds later than we would have!

    Anyway – I love what you have written here – and reading about your own journey toward a joy-filled life – it is inspiring for me!!

    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Lance!

      Blogging has been such a wonderful blessing in so many ways. When I started this adventure I had no idea thinking and writing about this topic would boost my own happiness as much as it has. I find it much easier to be mindful and make positive choices when positive, healthy living is part of my life every day.

      Before I was blogging, my life started getting a lot better when I stopped focusing on getting it right all the time. Today if I find myself getting frustrated by traffic, or annoyed by a co-worker, I can have a setback and find I’m holding on to those feelings without letting it ruin my day, or my life. Progress is a much better goal for me than perfection!

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

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