Links to Love: How to be happy

Posted by on Aug 2, 2011 in Links To Love | 10 comments

Deciding to be happy is about choosing an attitude and lifestyle that promotes joy and love in your life. Often negative thinking weighs us down and we forget, or never knew, we have a choice in our happiness.

Happiness is an inside job, after all. If you’re waiting to be happy for your life to be perfect, I’m afraid you’ll be waiting a long time.

There will be times when legitimate struggle overwhelms life and the idea of choosing happiness doesn’t mean you ignore other necessary and important feelings. All our feelings serve a useful purpose, or did at some point in time, but it’s easy to get stuck in negative feelings.

Sometimes it’s enough to know you have the choice to decide which feeling you focus on, choose to carry with you all day, and present to others. If you’re grieving, you may choose to sit with that loss until you’re ready to move on. Just know that when you’re ready, happiness is there waiting for you to choose it.

Think about the last time you got stuck in traffic on the way to work, spilled your coffee, or misplaced your keys. Do these types of setbacks ruin your day? At the end of the day do you still have your health, your home, your job? Is your life more-or-less the same tomorrow as it was this morning? You don’t have to let minor inconveniences get you down, choose happiness instead!

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If you’re ready to opt for happiness, check out these awesome links for happy thoughts, happy ideas and happy inspiration!

The Happiness Project: How to be happier- in four easy lessons Gretchen Rubin offers four truths of happiness. Simple and inspiring!

Global One: 21 Habits of Happy People Twenty-one great habits that cultivate happiness.

Jaclyn Rae’s Blog: 50 Ways to Scatter Sunshine Fifty wonderful ideas to bring joy to life!

Chief Happiness Officer, Alexander Kjerulf: My TEDx Talk Want arbejdsglæde? Watch Alexander’s talk at TEDx Coppenhagen to find out what arbejdsglæde is and how you can have it!

Live Love Work: Work Happy: How to be happier at work Check out my article on creating happiness at work (and beyond!)

I love your comments! How do you practice happiness?

image courtesy of Leo Reynolds


  1. I really agree with what you are saying about happiness! It’s a inward thing! I really believe when we find what makes us happy inwardly then we can move on with being happy! This is where we will find happiness inwardly from the heart so that it can match up outwardly! We have to find the things that we love inwardly in order to discover our happiness! So true in what you are saying here Chrysta!

    • Thank you for your comment, Tyler! I love the idea that we find happiness in our heart and match up the outside to match the inside. I think that’s it, exactly. When I create happiness with what I have, everything else seems to fall into place! It doesn’t mean life always goes according to my plan, but somehow things always seem to work out when I focus on the good and live life from a place of happiness.


  2. Most people know how I feel about this topic. Life is a choice period and happiness is included in that for sure.

    Sometimes it’s not an easy task, that I will agree. I had my time of mourning the loss of a loved one and it overtook me and was hard to come through that. But as you said so clearly Chrysta, at the end of the day we still have our health, our home, food on the table, all these things we sometimes take for granted. We definitely have so much to be thankful for so jipping yourself out of the happiness you deserve needs to stop now.

    Great links you gave us so I just might have to check them out. I have one friend who is struggling with this very thing right now so the more he can read and learn, the better off he will be. I appreciate those sources.

    Now, have a beautiful weekend.


    • Thank you for your comment, Adrienne.

      Even though I already know happiness is a choice for me, I still find it helpful to be reminded of positive ways to live life. I love compiling links I can refer back to when I’m out of sorts with my usual positive and productive attitudes!

      I hope your friend can find some encouragement and hope in these links, too. It can be challenging to overcome a difficult time, especially when we’ve experienced loss- loss of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of a dream, loss of a belief, etc. Grieving is important, and so is embracing all that’s beautiful and wonderful in life when the time for grieving has passed.

      Adrienne, I adore you! Have a fantastic weekend, yourself!


  3. Hi Chrysta, I just stumbled across your recent “happiness” post and site and absolutely LOVE IT!!! Where have you been all my life?? :)

    I just wanted to drop you a note and say that I love what you’re doing and you know have another dedicated follower. The past several months I have been in a process of reinvention which is driven by my true purpose, passions and happiness. I recently published an old (but relevant now) post I did several years ago on happiness,, that was based around some coincidences and sparked this life-changing reinvention (feel free to read this journey on my site).

    What your doing makes a difference and keep it up!!


    • Hi John,

      Thanks so much for your comment! I absolutely love meeting other people living their best possible life. Surrounding myself with positive and passionate people helps keep me on track on my goals, and it seems I’m always learning something new! I can’t wait to check out your site.

      Have a fantastic day!


  4. Chrysta, aloha. Thx so much for those incredible links. Don’t be surprised it you see some in a future post of mine linking back to this post.

    Shrysta, I absolutely agree that “happiness is an inside job.”

    Decades ago a very successful man said something that has stayed with me ever since. What he said, Chrysta, is that “things are going to happen that get you down. You can choose to either stay down until something comes along and lifts you up or you can choose to lift yourself up. Sooner or later, you will be lifted. Why wait?”

    Isn’t that a fantastic message? It is so clear and absolutely true. Why wait for some outside force/external circumstance to come along and make us happy. Rather, be sad or wallow for a moment, then “pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.” Be happy!

    Thx for bringing a smile to my face. Chrysta, thx again for the terrific resources. Until next time, aloha. Janet

    • Lovely to see you today, Janet!

      I absolutely adore this quote, “things are going to happen that get you down. You can choose to either stay down until something comes along and lifts you up or you can choose to lift yourself up. Sooner or later, you will be lifted. Why wait?” I may even hang it on my wall so I can look at it and be reminded that I have a choice in how I respond to life. Fantastic!

      I wish you a beautiful, happy day, my friend.


  5. Several years ago I had an aha! moment through which I realigned my thinking. Choosing happiness is an easy habit and makes the little bumps in the road stay little.

    • I am so grateful to recognize that happiness is an option for me. There’s a clarity in realizing that situations don’t define my day, and in fact most events that occur throughout my day are actually neutral. I can decide what’s worthy of my time and attention!


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