Professional Development

Setting goals for the new year!

Posted by on Dec 20, 2016 in Achieving Goals, Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

As we approach the end of the year many people start thinking about their goals for the new year. I’m thinking about mine and, let me tell you, I have big plans for 2017, including polishing my TEDx talk, growing my business, and writing a book! Whew!

What about you? Did you accomplish what you wanted in 2016? What do you want to be different next year? What do you want to do in 2017?

If you need some help setting your goals for the new year, I’ve got some great resources for you!

6 Tips for setting and achieving your goals for 2017!

01. Set goals that matter

Set goals based on what you want to create, not what you want to get. Let me explain… Let’s say you want a new job in 2017. Why do you want a new job? What does that mean for you? Maybe your motivation is to enjoy a more flexible work schedule, or to make more money, or do work you love. Knowing why your goal matters to you can help you stay on track and even help you find alternate paths to create the life you really want.

02. Identify your one-word goal

Come up with one word that signifies the life you want to create in the new year. Let that one word guide your goals, your choices, and your actions throughout the year.

03. Avoid goal-setting mistakes

Avoid these 5 goal setting mistakes, such as setting goals motivated by shame, comparison, a false sense of happiness, basing your goals on your dreams, and being too results-focused.

04. Create a vision board to guide you

Vision boards are a great way to focus and motivate yourself throughout the  year! A vision board is a visual representation of the goals you’re working to achieve. Looking at your vision board every day can keep you on track and inspired every day!

05. Say no to requests that are not aligned with your goals

When you say yes to one thing, you say no to something else- usually yourself! This year, consider yourself first! Say no to requests and opportunities that will take you away from your goals instead of towards your goals.

6. Get help setting and achieving your goals!

If you’re not where you want to be in your career, get unstuck and uncover your next career move. Download the worksheet to get clarity, focus, and direction on your career goals for 2017!

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My best career tip

Posted by on Nov 15, 2016 in Business Management, Career Management, Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

As a Career Coach, I work with career professionals and entrepreneurs who are looking to level up. They are usually looking for work or looking to increase their income. There are lots of tools and support I use to work with clients to help them reach their goals.

There is one tip I give every client I work with.

That’s right, one piece of advice that works for everyone in every situation! This advice works for everyone equally.

Now when I tell you what it is, you might think I’m crazy. You might protest, “but, Chrysta, what does this have to do with finding a job, getting a raise, getting clients?!”

So I hope you’ll bear with me for a minute here because I promise you, it works. And it might not be what you think. I encourage you to be open to the tip I’m about to share.

Before I tell you, I want to share how it’s worked in my life- very specifically the last two weeks.

A LOT has happened in the last two weeks. The floor drain backed up and partially flooded our basement. Then it was my husband’s birthday party, followed by his birthday. A few days later I participated in a 2-day event I’ve been planning for 6 months. While I was out-of-town at the event, my cat went missing. That weekend I moved into my new office. The very next day our garage door opener broke. A few days after that we found my cat.

That’s a lot to happen in two months, let alone two weeks. And through it all I stayed relatively balanced, centered, and ready to face the day. How did I do it? From this simple tip I have to share with you.

Are you ready?

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My best career tip is to start a regular gratitude practice. Write a daily gratitude list and I do mean write- put it down on paper. Take 60 seconds each day to pause, reflect, and be grateful.

Yep, that’s it. Be grateful.

Still skeptical? Let me tell you why it works.

A regular gratitude practice gives you something positive and hopeful to hold onto no matter what happens in your day. In this way gratitude is an anchor to the good stuff in your life.

Gratitude tempers the highs and lows, the ups and downs. Gratitude helps you connect to the present, grounding you in good things you have right here, right now.

Gratitude also boosts your energy and mood, giving you an extra reserve of motivation, and helping you face challenges as they come.

I’ve heard lots of advice from successful entrepreneurs and gurus that suggest starting a variety of daily habits- from getting up early, to daily exercise, to meditation. It’s true, all of these positive habits will help you be more successful. But what I like about starting a gratitude practice is it’s so easy to do! The best thing about starting a gratitude practice is it takes very little time and everyone can do it. Gratitude will help you be more successful in all you do!

So, that’s it. Start a regular gratitude practice. Write down a gratitude list every day. Notice the difference in your overall attitude, energy level, and ability to handle problems.

If you get discouraged, start a gratitude practice.

If you’re feeling stressed, start a gratitude practice.

If your energy is low, start a gratitude practice.

If you’re feeling great, start a gratitude practice.

It won’t solve your problems but it will help you be prepared to solve them. Give it a try and see what happens!

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Take a leap of faith

Posted by on Oct 18, 2016 in Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

When was the last time you did something that excited you? How about the last time you did something that scared you? Have you felt exhilarated in the last year? The last 6 months?

Maybe you’re not a risk-taker. I get it. You’d rather be comfy. Maybe you’re a comfortador. (Points to those of you that caught that Buffy reference.)

The thing about comfort is, well, it’s comfortable. We’re really good at convincing ourselves that things aren’t so bad here. I mean, sure, you don’t like your job, you’re living paycheck-to-paycheck, but it’s tolerable. It’s comfortable.

Let me ask you, what are you tolerating?

You’ve got to jump

This weekend I attended Awaken Your Impact, a transformational 3-day live, or should I say life-changing, event. For 3 days Rachael Jayne Groover prepared us for our next jump. The next jump in our live, the next jump in our business.

“If you want to be successful, here’s the thing you have to do. You have to jump.” – Steve Harvey

At the start of the weekend  she showed us this short video from Steve Harvey:

So let me ask you another question, what do you want in your life? Do you feel the desire of the life that’s calling you? Are you tired of tolerating? Are you ready to step out of your comfort zone into your growth zone? Are you ready to jump?

Maybe you’re reading this and you really are a comfortador. Hey, that’s okay. I respect that.

Or maybe you’re reading this and you know you’re meant for something bigger and better.

Signs it’s time to take a leap of faith

You want more from your life

You know you were meant to do something amazing

You’re not afraid to try something new

You learn new skills quickly

You feel the itch to change jobs every few years

You see successful people and you know if they can do it, so can you

You have lots of ideas

You daydream

You’re stuck

You’re confused

You keep telling yourself you’re going to jump when it’s safe to do so

You keep telling yourself you’re going to jump when the outcome is guaranteed

You’re sick of making excuses

You’re scared to jump and a little excited, too

You are broke

You are bored

You are depressed

You are comfortable

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How to take a leap of faith

Just jump.

I left Dallas ready to take my next few jumps. My first jump is to own my specialness, which I did today, on video, for all the world to see. o.O

My next jump is to launch my signature coaching program. It’s coming soon!

So tell me, what’s your next jump?

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Does It Work To Fake It ’til You Make It?

Posted by on Sep 20, 2016 in Achieving Goals, Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

Can you “fake it ’til you make it” in life? What about your career?

Fake it ’til you make it is a practice that suggests you act “as if” something is true until it is true.

The idea of fake it ’til you make it is similar to positive affirmations. You repeat a positive message or statement, giving that idea your attention and intention. Positive affirmations take an idea or belief and give it focus and meaning in your life.

Fake it ’til you make it is a way to encourage, motivate, and change yourself for the better.

So does it work?

Well, yes and no.

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When it works to fake it ’til you make it

Fake it ’til you make it is a great practice when you’re trying to change your own attitude or behavior. Change is hard and sometimes you have to act as if you’re already changed before you actually change.

For example, let’s say you’re trying to build your confidence around a new skill. When you tell yourself, “I can do this”, you’ll believe it’s true, even if you’re still nervous or uncertain. You’ve planted a seed of confidence within you.

Next you stand up tall, holding your head high- a sure sign of confidence! Okay, maybe the butterflies in your stomach are really bats. The physical cue of standing tall moves your body and mind towards feeling confident.

Faking confidence helps you be more confident.

In another example, let’s say you want to create a new, positive habit. You want to stop complaining and be more grateful. You can absolutely fake it ’til you make it!

If you have a habit of complaining, your thought patterns are conditioned to notice and lament the negative. You do it without thinking- but this is pattern you want to change!

So you act as if you are grateful. You write a gratitude list when you’re sure it’s all a bunch of bullshit. You say “thank you” even when you aren’t feeling appreciative. You compliment a co-worker on a job well done, even when you think they could have done better and you know exactly how they can improve.

You adopt an attitude of gratitude and, in doing so, you condition yourself to notice and praise the positive. You turn your complaining habit into a thankful habit!

How do I know it works? Because I learned to get good at public speaking by telling myself “I can do this” and standing tall every time I was on stage. I stopped complaining and starting being grateful by acting grateful, even when I didn’t feel especially grateful at the start.

And it hasn’t just worked for me. It’s worked for my clients, too. Though some of them were skeptical at first, they soon found that you can change your own attitudes and behaviors by faking it ’til you make it!

When it doesn’t work to fake it ’til you make it

Fake it ’til you make it doesn’t work when you’re trying to change someone else’s attitudes or behaviors. For example, if you want other people to see you as friendly, faking friendliness usually has the opposite effect! It just doesn’t work to try to influence or control what other people think of you.

I attended an Art of Feminine Presence class and in that class the teacher instructed us to think about what quality we most want to project when in a social or networking situation. I want people to see me as approachable and friendly, but when I tried to project friendliness in class the feedback I got was not so friendly!

Trying to fake it is not an effective tool to change someone else. Well, let’s face it, there’s no method that will change someone else’s thoughts or behaviors. It’s better to keep the focus on yourself, being your best version of yourself, and being the generally awesome person you are!

Have you tried to fake it ’til you make it? When has it worked for you? When hasn’t it worked for you? Let’s start a conversation- leave your comments below!

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How to be authentic in business

Posted by on Mar 1, 2016 in Business Management, Professional Development, Work-life Balance | 0 comments

If you want to be promoted, be authentic. If you want to grow your business, be authentic. If you want to be respected, be authentic. If you want to stand out in business, be authentic.

Authenticity is an attribute that isn’t often mentioned when it comes to professional development, yet it’s a major factor in business success. Why? Because we want to do business with people and companies that are genuine, real, and trustworthy.

Being authentic in business isn’t always as easy as it may seem. I learned just how hard it can be when I started my coaching business.

I began my business being encouraged, excited, and eager to change the world, one client at a time, but business isn’t just about delivering results; I had to bring in clients which meant I had to learn sales and marketing.

As I dove into the sales and marketing mindset, I stopped focusing on changing the world for my clients and started focusing on making money. My underlying motivation changed from getting results for my clients to getting results for myself.

Let me tell you, it’s hard to sell transformation when you’re focused on the selling, not the transformation. Nobody likes to be sold to, and people can tell when you put your interests before theirs.

Oops.

Fortunately I learned this lesson quickly, and was able to readjust my mindset. I reconnected with my big why- why I started this business in the first place. I’m doing this to help women recognize and communicate their value, to stand up and stand out in business.

I had to acknowledge my failure, be honest with myself, and get authentic.

What does it really mean to be authentic in business? This was the question I had to consider.

How to be authentic in business

Examine your motives

What motivates you to take action? What is your desired outcome? What result are you looking to achieve?

Being clear about your motives helps be transparent and clear, and you’ll come off more authentically.

Don’t try to be something you’re not

It’s tempting to agree to any and all inquiries with agreement when you’re trying to build a name for yourself in business, but agreeing to something you can’t deliver is a risky move.

In business it’s not about having all the answers or being an expert in every area. Focus on your strengths, and standout in a few key areas. Saying no when it’s appropriate is authentic!

Be (selectively) vulnerable

None of us are perfect and that’s totally okay! Sometimes it’s even good to let people see our imperfections. People relate to us through our imperfections!

Share your vulnerability from time to time- particularly when you’ve overcome a hardship or challenge. Doing so allows others to relate and connect with us authentically.

Own up to your mistakes

See above re: none of us are perfect. Yep, you’re going to make mistakes. Trying to cover up or ignore your mistakes erodes trust.

When you make a mistake own up to it, learn from it, and move on.

Be open to (most) feedback

Ask for and listen to your customer’s feedback. If you care about your customers, they’re more likely to care about you. Just be mindful of constructive versus destructive feedback- listen to one and not the other!

Authentic businesses build relationships with their customers, and feedback is a great way to build that relationship.

Know your why

Why is what you do important? Why do you do it? Who are you helping? How are you helping them?

Get clear on your why and let it guide you in all your business interactions.

Be of service

Are you focused on what you have to give, or have you fallen into the trap of focusing on what others can give you?

Being of service allows you to reflect and readjust your thoughts, words, and actions in business. It allows you to stay focused on what’s important and why. The easiest and simplest way to be authentic is to ask yourself, “how can I be of service in this situation?”, because, in business, it’s not all about you.

How do you view authenticity in business? What other ways are you authentic in your business interactions? Join the conversation and leave a comment below!

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Stand Up and Stand Out In Work and Life

Posted by on Feb 16, 2016 in Business Management, Career Management, Professional Development | 0 comments

You’re intelligent and hardworking. You have a great work ethic. Day in and day out, you get the job done. So why aren’t you making a greater impact in your work? Why are other people getting ahead and making more money while you’re just getting by?

I see it every day- creative and talented businesswomen that are overworked, overwhelmed, and overlooked. Does this sound like you? Because it doesn’t have to be.

You’ve got so much to offer, so much value to add. It’s time to stand up and stand out in your work and your life. It’s time to get noticed! Are you ready?

I’ve been working on my workshop, Give Yourself a Promotion webinar, and speaking at several events about this idea of defining and communicating the value each of us has to offer. The value is there but for some explicable reason other people aren’t seeing it, or if they are, they aren’t rewarding it. That’s because it’s up to you!

I was poor throughout most of my school years. Not paycheck-to-paycheck poor but actual living on welfare, not having a coat in the winter poor. When I graduated high school I wanted to go to college but my family didn’t have any money to pay for school and the thought of racking up $40,000 or more in student loans when I didn’t even have wardrobe basics was overwhelming. I was struggling to barely get by.

Instead of going to college, I started working. At each job I worked hard and learned everything I could about not only my job, but other roles within the company, the organization, and business as a whole. I volunteered for special projects to expand my skill set and asked to be sent to seminars and training.

After 20+ years in business I had created a career for myself, providing high-level accounting and finance and management services. I didn’t make a career through luck or hard work, though I had both of those things, I did it by recognizing what I was good at, building those skills, and advocating for my own success.

Through my career I realized I have more to offer and my passion wasn’t in accounting and finance, but in coaching and consulting. I loved working one on one with employees and clients and helping them succeed. I transitioned from a career professional to entrepreneur, offering coaching and training. I overcame my social anxiety and became an accomplished speaker. I am living the life of my dreams!

Now you know my story and I want to know yours.

How will you stand up and stand out? I can help you get started in 3 steps. This is just the beginning of your success story!

Take some time to answer the questions below, or download the worksheet. Use these questions to get clear about the value you have to offer, who you’re offering it to, and how you can stand up and stand out in your work and your life as the professional you want to be.

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Determine what you want to be known for

What parts of your work do you feel passionate about sharing? What knowledge, skill, or message do you want to be known for?

In what ways are you unique? How are you uniquely qualified to share your passion?

Define your audience of influence

What impact do you want to have in business?

Where do you want to have an impact? Is it in your organization, in your community? What group or groups do you want to influence?

Disseminate your position as an expert

How do you want to make an impact?

How can you embody your value? How can you communicate your unique value through your thoughts, your actions, your words, and your presence?

Excellent work! You’ve gotten some clarity around your value and how and where to communicate it. Or maybe you’re more confused than ever! Either way, you’re on the right track, I promise. And I can help you with the next steps. Join me for my Give Yourself A Promotion webinar, or contact me to book a strategy session to stand up and stand out in your work and your life!

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