Personal Development

Setting goals for the new year!

Posted by on Dec 20, 2016 in Achieving Goals, Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

As we approach the end of the year many people start thinking about their goals for the new year. I’m thinking about mine and, let me tell you, I have big plans for 2017, including polishing my TEDx talk, growing my business, and writing a book! Whew!

What about you? Did you accomplish what you wanted in 2016? What do you want to be different next year? What do you want to do in 2017?

If you need some help setting your goals for the new year, I’ve got some great resources for you!

6 Tips for setting and achieving your goals for 2017!

01. Set goals that matter

Set goals based on what you want to create, not what you want to get. Let me explain… Let’s say you want a new job in 2017. Why do you want a new job? What does that mean for you? Maybe your motivation is to enjoy a more flexible work schedule, or to make more money, or do work you love. Knowing why your goal matters to you can help you stay on track and even help you find alternate paths to create the life you really want.

02. Identify your one-word goal

Come up with one word that signifies the life you want to create in the new year. Let that one word guide your goals, your choices, and your actions throughout the year.

03. Avoid goal-setting mistakes

Avoid these 5 goal setting mistakes, such as setting goals motivated by shame, comparison, a false sense of happiness, basing your goals on your dreams, and being too results-focused.

04. Create a vision board to guide you

Vision boards are a great way to focus and motivate yourself throughout the  year! A vision board is a visual representation of the goals you’re working to achieve. Looking at your vision board every day can keep you on track and inspired every day!

05. Say no to requests that are not aligned with your goals

When you say yes to one thing, you say no to something else- usually yourself! This year, consider yourself first! Say no to requests and opportunities that will take you away from your goals instead of towards your goals.

6. Get help setting and achieving your goals!

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Healing from the election

Posted by on Nov 22, 2016 in Personal Development | 0 comments

There has been significant confusion, suffering, and pain since the 2016 Presidential election. Every day people vilify, rage, and criticize elected leaders, media, political and social organizations, and even each other.

I understand the pain many are feeling, but here’s the thing- I have a life to live and I have important work to do, despite the election results and what’s happening in our country.

It’s hard to get up every morning and go about the business of the day carrying the weight of the election on my head, heart, and soul.

The work that many people are doing related to politics is important, too, but what’s not important is projecting fear, insecurity, and hate, even if those are the very emotions you are feeling.

If you’re like me your important work is not directly related to politics. And before you can do your important work you need to find a way to heal from the election.

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How to heal from the election

Suspend the snark

Looking at my social media feeds, over 90% of what I see posted is not intelligent political discourse, but rather sarcastic, snarky, and seething commentary on politics. Did you know the origin of the word, “sarcasm” means to “tear flesh”? Ouch.

The momentary sense of satisfaction you get from posting snarky memes is quickly replaced by anger, despair, and hopelessness. Stop sharing sarcasm and snark.

Create a container

Your feelings are important and it’s just as important to create a safe container for your feelings. Emotions can be overwhelming if we let them overrun our experience. Those same emotions are damaging if we project them outward on the people closest to us.

Write about your thoughts and feelings in your journal, or share them in conversation with a trusted mentor or friend. Create a safe container to express and hold space for your feelings.

Be the boss of you

Over the last several weeks I’ve seen a lot of people telling other people how to behave and feel. Putting yourself in charge of other people’s actions and emotions is a great way to distance yourself from others and feel really miserable about it.

Be the boss of you. Work on managing yourself and your feelings. Put on your oxygen mask. Take care of your emotional well-being. Be a leader and example for those same people you just can’t change.

Practice self-care

Pay attention to your mental, emotional, and physical health. Take good care of you first and foremost.

Self-care includes getting a good night’s sleep, eating nutritious and healthy food, and some form of physical activity.

Nurture your relationships

We are social creatures, designed to live and work together. Now is the time to nurture our relationships and strengthen our connections.

Invite a co-worker to lunch or connect with a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Call your mom, just to say hello.

Be kind

Treating others with kindness will naturally improve your relationships, your outlook, and your mood. Besides, we can accomplish so much more together than alone.

Practicing kindness is a great start.

Accept before you act

Anytime you’re faced with a problem it’s important to accept before you act. Acceptance doesn’t equal approval but rather understanding. Do you fully understand the problem? If not, ask yourself, “what happened? Why? What can I learn from this?”

When you accept before you act, your actions are more thoughtful and intentional, and often yield better results.

Do something important

The best way to counter feelings of hopelessness is to take action. Instead of focusing on the problem, take a small step to create change.

Do something productive. Do something meaningful. Do something important that will get you one step closer to a personal, professional, or political goal.

If you’re going to share something about politics on social media, why not share this post? Begin to heal and encourage others to do the same. Do what you need to do and do it in a way that inspires, uplifts, and creates positive change.

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My best career tip

Posted by on Nov 15, 2016 in Business Management, Career Management, Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

As a Career Coach, I work with career professionals and entrepreneurs who are looking to level up. They are usually looking for work or looking to increase their income. There are lots of tools and support I use to work with clients to help them reach their goals.

There is one tip I give every client I work with.

That’s right, one piece of advice that works for everyone in every situation! This advice works for everyone equally.

Now when I tell you what it is, you might think I’m crazy. You might protest, “but, Chrysta, what does this have to do with finding a job, getting a raise, getting clients?!”

So I hope you’ll bear with me for a minute here because I promise you, it works. And it might not be what you think. I encourage you to be open to the tip I’m about to share.

Before I tell you, I want to share how it’s worked in my life- very specifically the last two weeks.

A LOT has happened in the last two weeks. The floor drain backed up and partially flooded our basement. Then it was my husband’s birthday party, followed by his birthday. A few days later I participated in a 2-day event I’ve been planning for 6 months. While I was out-of-town at the event, my cat went missing. That weekend I moved into my new office. The very next day our garage door opener broke. A few days after that we found my cat.

That’s a lot to happen in two months, let alone two weeks. And through it all I stayed relatively balanced, centered, and ready to face the day. How did I do it? From this simple tip I have to share with you.

Are you ready?

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My best career tip is to start a regular gratitude practice. Write a daily gratitude list and I do mean write- put it down on paper. Take 60 seconds each day to pause, reflect, and be grateful.

Yep, that’s it. Be grateful.

Still skeptical? Let me tell you why it works.

A regular gratitude practice gives you something positive and hopeful to hold onto no matter what happens in your day. In this way gratitude is an anchor to the good stuff in your life.

Gratitude tempers the highs and lows, the ups and downs. Gratitude helps you connect to the present, grounding you in good things you have right here, right now.

Gratitude also boosts your energy and mood, giving you an extra reserve of motivation, and helping you face challenges as they come.

I’ve heard lots of advice from successful entrepreneurs and gurus that suggest starting a variety of daily habits- from getting up early, to daily exercise, to meditation. It’s true, all of these positive habits will help you be more successful. But what I like about starting a gratitude practice is it’s so easy to do! The best thing about starting a gratitude practice is it takes very little time and everyone can do it. Gratitude will help you be more successful in all you do!

So, that’s it. Start a regular gratitude practice. Write down a gratitude list every day. Notice the difference in your overall attitude, energy level, and ability to handle problems.

If you get discouraged, start a gratitude practice.

If you’re feeling stressed, start a gratitude practice.

If your energy is low, start a gratitude practice.

If you’re feeling great, start a gratitude practice.

It won’t solve your problems but it will help you be prepared to solve them. Give it a try and see what happens!

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10 ways to get happy now

Posted by on Oct 25, 2016 in Personal Development, Stress Management | 0 comments

I don’t know about you, but the last few weeks have been busy, exhausting, exciting, challenging, scary, and yes, even a little bit depressing for me.

There’s so much big, important stuff happening in my life and the world at large. There’s the election. The holidays are just around the corner. And that’s not even including everything that’s going on in my personal and professional life. It’s enough to make a girl crazy!

Maybe it’s been a hectic couple of weeks for you, too.

It’s tempting to sacrifice happiness now for the promise of happiness in the future. It’s easy to get so caught up in activity of the day that we forget to stop and just be happy. Sometimes we create unhappiness in our lives. We start to think, “I’ll be happy when….

When? Why not now?!

Here are 10 8 ways to get happy now. Right now. This very minute! For real! I promise!

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01. Write a gratitude list

It’s so simple and it works! What’s not to love? Write out a gratitude list and get happy.

02. Do something you love

When was the last time you did something you loved just for the enjoyment of doing it? Take even just 15 minutes to do something you love!

03. Connect to someone you love

Send a message to someone you’ve been thinking of. Reach out to a family member or friend. Connecting creates happiness!

04. Cross one item off your to-do list

Do one small thing that’s been nagging at you. Go ahead, just get one thing done!

05. Cross another item off your to-do list without doing it

Cross off that thing that’s been nagging at you to do but it doesn’t really need to be done. Just get rid of it!

06. Be kind

Any act of kindness, no matter how small, will boost your mood!

07. Practice self-care

Move yourself to the top of your list! Take care of your health and wellness– it’s starts with just one act of self-care.

08. Half-ass it

I’ve got to be honest, I have had a full day and I am ready for some downtime. Writing this post is the last thing on my to-do list so here I am, half-assing it. This list was originally 10 ways to be happy, now it’s 8. Done is better than perfect. #sorrynotsorry

There, now don’t you feel better? I know I do.

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Take a leap of faith

Posted by on Oct 18, 2016 in Personal Development, Professional Development | 0 comments

When was the last time you did something that excited you? How about the last time you did something that scared you? Have you felt exhilarated in the last year? The last 6 months?

Maybe you’re not a risk-taker. I get it. You’d rather be comfy. Maybe you’re a comfortador. (Points to those of you that caught that Buffy reference.)

The thing about comfort is, well, it’s comfortable. We’re really good at convincing ourselves that things aren’t so bad here. I mean, sure, you don’t like your job, you’re living paycheck-to-paycheck, but it’s tolerable. It’s comfortable.

Let me ask you, what are you tolerating?

You’ve got to jump

This weekend I attended Awaken Your Impact, a transformational 3-day live, or should I say life-changing, event. For 3 days Rachael Jayne Groover prepared us for our next jump. The next jump in our live, the next jump in our business.

“If you want to be successful, here’s the thing you have to do. You have to jump.” – Steve Harvey

At the start of the weekend  she showed us this short video from Steve Harvey:

So let me ask you another question, what do you want in your life? Do you feel the desire of the life that’s calling you? Are you tired of tolerating? Are you ready to step out of your comfort zone into your growth zone? Are you ready to jump?

Maybe you’re reading this and you really are a comfortador. Hey, that’s okay. I respect that.

Or maybe you’re reading this and you know you’re meant for something bigger and better.

Signs it’s time to take a leap of faith

You want more from your life

You know you were meant to do something amazing

You’re not afraid to try something new

You learn new skills quickly

You feel the itch to change jobs every few years

You see successful people and you know if they can do it, so can you

You have lots of ideas

You daydream

You’re stuck

You’re confused

You keep telling yourself you’re going to jump when it’s safe to do so

You keep telling yourself you’re going to jump when the outcome is guaranteed

You’re sick of making excuses

You’re scared to jump and a little excited, too

You are broke

You are bored

You are depressed

You are comfortable

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How to take a leap of faith

Just jump.

I left Dallas ready to take my next few jumps. My first jump is to own my specialness, which I did today, on video, for all the world to see. o.O

My next jump is to launch my signature coaching program. It’s coming soon!

So tell me, what’s your next jump?

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How to stay sane this election year

Posted by on Oct 11, 2016 in Personal Development | 0 comments

You can’t escape it. It’s a presidential election year. As we count down to election day, things just seem to get worse and worse.

It’s the time of year that friends and family become enemies. It’s the time of year your feelings for your coworkers go from annoyance to intolerance.

Tensions are running high and it’s difficult not to get swept up in the vitriol.

Everybody’s got an opinion, including you.

Maybe you’re looking for a little relief from the insanity. Maybe you want to feel something other than disgust for your fellow-man. Maybe you want to do something meaningful with your work and your life during election season.

The tips I’m sharing aren’t for everyone. I expect some of you reading this will disagree with my ideas. That’s okay, my friend. This post just isn’t for you. It IS for those people are looking for a fresh perspective!

Thich Nhat Hanh said, “Someone asked me, ‘Aren’t you worried about the state of the world?’ I allowed myself to breathe and then I said, ‘What is most important is not to allow your anxiety about what happens in the world to fill your heart. If your heart is filled with anxiety, you will get sick, and you will not be able to help.’

Yes, there is tremendous suffering all over the world, but knowing this need not paralyze us. If we practice mindful breathing, mindful walking, mindful sitting, and working in mindfulness, we can try our best to help.”

My goal is to find a way to be at peace with the election year, and I want to share that with you.

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Stop complaining

I get it. You can’t stand one candidate or another (or maybe both)! He/she is the worst of the worst! Fine, you’re entitled to your opinion and you have to stop complaining about it!

The more you complain, the more you unhappy you feel. You begin to find unhappiness everywhere you look. It’s not just the election, it’s this thing and that thing and you may begin to feel angry, anxious, and/or depressed!

You’ve got better things to do with your life, don’t you?

Just say no to memes

You see a funny or biting meme in your Facebook feed and you re-post it. It’s too good not to share, right?

What value do you get from re-posting? Is it adding any value to your life, other than making you feel more justified and/or outraged than you already were?

What’s the harm? The harm in posting political memes is essentially the same as complaining, in addition to isolating you from family and friends that you might offend.

Avoid news and social media

Online news and social media can get depressing this time of year. Most of what you read online isn’t changing anyone’s mind, but it just might be changing your mood and attitude.

Give yourself a break! Take at least one day offline per week!

Get gratitude

An attitude of gratitude will take you far in life!  Don’t neglect your gratitude during the trials and tribulations of a presidential election.

Nurture your relationships

Instead of avoiding people with opposing views, actively nurture these relationships during election season. It’s okay to avoid political topics- engage them in a meaningful way and find common ground.

Stand for, not against

Instead of putting down the candidate you don’t support, stand up for the candidate you do support.

Discuss the concepts and ideas that align with your purpose and value. Volunteer for the candidate you support. Make a positive impact for the candidate you believe in.

Do good

Get out in your community and do good. Help a neighbor or friend. Volunteer with a local organization. Do something that makes you feel good and adds good to the world!

Take what you like and leave the rest

Take what you can use to better yourself, your life, and world. You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. Take what you like and leave the rest.

Now, don’t you feel better already? Put these ideas to practice and sign up for my newsletter to get more inspiration straight to your inbox every-other-week.

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