Change Management

Creating career change

Posted by on Feb 7, 2017 in Career Advice, Change Management | 1 comment

The past few weeks my clients have been feeling frustrated and discouraged. While my client’s individual situations are quite different they have been experiencing similar emotions.

Well, let’s face it, the past few weeks have been frustrating and discouraging politically, and what I’m hearing from clients is job opportunities, job growth, and career development have taken a back seat to the turmoil we’re experiencing socially. The change in administration and transition has taken focus away from personal and professional health. Let’s face it, we’re too busy discussing healthcare to maintain our actual physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

But something amazing has happened these past few weeks; individuals across the country standing up, speaking up, and showing personal courage, inspired leadership, and taking action. And that’s how we make progress. That’s how we create a better society. That’s how we create a better life.

How can you stand up, speak up, and show up personally and professionally?

I’m not talking about politics here- I’m talking about your work and your life.

How can you make progress? How can you create a better life? You do it by showing personal courage, inspired leadership, and taking action.

Many people avoid change. Many people are happy enough to be comfortably unhappy.

Are you going to stay comfortably unhappy? Are you going to continue to tolerate being unfulfilled, unhappy at work, and underpaid? Does your job sucks and you don’t mind? Are you disappointed, anxious, and discouraged?

Are you okay with that?

Or, you can use the discomfort and frustration you’re feeling at work to create positive change. You can take one step in the direction of your dreams. Just the first step.

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No more excuses, it’s time to make a change.

What is your step forward? Here’s some ideas:

Get unstuck and uncover your next career move – download the worksheet!


Stop taking work so seriously!


Set boundaries at work


Have more fun at work!


Build your confidence


Take a leap of faith


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It’s time for action. Let’s do this!

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Can you be too happy?

Posted by on Aug 9, 2016 in Change Management, Guest Posts, Personal Development | 0 comments

In addition to being able to hit rock bottom emotionally, we humans can also hit an emotional ceiling.

Despite having a biological mechanism that is constantly seeking to find pleasure and avoid pain, some have also discovered an emotional mechanism that starts shutting down the pleasure if it gets overloaded.

Did you hear that right?

have you reached your happiness set point

Yes, that means it is possible to be too happy!

Gay Hendricks writes about this happiness-regulation mechanism in his book, The Big Leap. He calls it “the upper limit problem” and describes many times where things in his life were going well and getting better. And just when he was enjoying a peak moment, about to soak up all the sunshine of his success, a gloomy negative suspicious thought would worm its way into his mind and make him doubt the whole thing.

Or worse, he would pick a meaningless fight, resort to snarky comments, become careless with important deadlines, or sabotage his own success in some uncharacteristic way. He watched this happen time and time again in himself and also with his clients, until he started to see the formula:

Everyone has a Happiness Set Point.

And when we get too far away from our happiness set point, even on the positive side, our biochemistry will kick on like a thermostat to bring us back into our normal range. This theory has been studied by the American Psychological Association and many others and is now known as the “happiness set point theory” among psychologists.

So what can we do about it?

Here are the 3 steps I use to gradually expand my capacity for Joy & Happiness:


Whenever I have a few wins in a row, or I reach a long-awaited goal, or even if I just have a particularly good day with my hubby, I become aware of my ceiling as it approaches. It accompanies phrases like:

“I didn’t know life could get this good.”


“It doesn’t get any better than this!”


“I think this is the happiest I’ve ever felt.”

Now, I’m a words girl, so hearing these phrases is how I know my ceiling is near – I say it or think it in words. It may be different for you. It may be a feeling so big in your chest that you just have to spread out your arms and dance around, or you may feel your cheeks aching from smiling all day. Whatever it is for you, start becoming aware of it.

Be aware of when you are nearing your previous happiness ceiling.

2. Stretch & feel safe

Okay, is it time to let that old ceiling crack and let your happiness overflow and raise the roof! I focus on feeling it, savoring it, and rolling around in it, even though I’ve never felt this happy before, and I remind my subconscious mind that I am safe, and that it’s okay to feel this way.

I work out my happiness muscle with every second, knowing that even 10 extra seconds is a big deal! If other thoughts pop up, I set them aside and return my focus just to the Joy for just a liiiiiittle longer…. after all, if it is like most emotions, it may only be around for 90 seconds or so. Enjoy it as much as you can!

3. Enjoy the natural downhill

If I’ve allowed myself to feel the joy fully, it usually starts to fade softly and naturally back down to my typical range. And I am left with a fond memory of a peak experience, an expanded capacity for joy in the future, and a sweet buoyant contentment.

Sometimes, I don’t feel this way afterwards, and I can usually see that I’ve either:

a) tried to hang on to the feeling because I didn’t want it to fade – sort of clinging and grasping and trying to make this joy last foreverrrrrrrrr!!!


b) I’ve “picked a fight” with myself, another, or the situation itself. I may have started noticing how it wasn’t perfect, or tried to control it, or wriggled out of the moment in some new creative way. When I do this, I am left with a tainted memory, and a feeling of frustration.

Here’s what happened to me on the day of my wedding reception. It was a beautiful day, with a lot of little details that mostly went really well. Not perfectly, but really well. It really was one of the happiest days of my life, being with all my friends, family, and my wonderful new husband, in the mountains eating BBQ and playing games.

I felt beautiful, and cared for, and totally myself. For hours. Plus, the day before had been an incredible day as well – a spa day followed by our small evening ceremony on the lake. Wow, okay, I was nearing my happiness limit!

Afterwards, we went back to the cabin to put our feet up and just savor the glow for a bit before dinner. However, the cabins had made a mistake and checked us out a day early, and our keys did not work in our door!

This was an opportunity for me to snap out of my joy and drain all my pleasure away. And I started to. I felt myself frowning, and then I felt the wave of wanting to list alllllll the little things that had not gone right! I was picking a fight with my beautiful day, and starting to turn my attention to the tiny details.

I was about to exchange the huge incredible warmth and wonder of that day for a little taste of righteousness about people being incompetent. 

Luckily, my support system kicked in. Justin, my new hubby, got on the phone with the cabins, and we knocked on the door of our friends’ cabin who let us chill on their couch. Now it was up to me how I would handle this. As the bride, they would all probably follow my lead – and we all would have either had a total bitching fest, or a great memory.

The happily ever after is that I chose to bring up the joy, and savor the sweetness of the day. I counted my blessings, we told stories of old friends, and we all laughed and cried together on that couch. It is one of my fondest memories of the whole week, and I am so happy I loosened up and let it happen.

How about you?

In what ways do you limit your joy?

How do you know when you’re approaching your happiness ceiling?

How do you remember to stay focused on the joy, and not get jolted out of it?

And how will you gradually expand your range of happy?


Amanda’s passion is working with women who find themselves in higher levels of leadership than they planned – needing to speak, negotiate, or sell. She shares tools to help them stay in Joy & Authenticity as they lead. You can find out more at

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Are you a motivational junkie?

Posted by on Jan 19, 2016 in Change Management, Personal Development | 2 comments

For years before I started blogging I was a motivational junkie. I read blogs, books, and articles that were motivational and inspirational. I attended seminars and programs that filled my head with encouragement. Getting motivated was a high.

When my health hit bottom, I realized I needed to make some changes. Real changes. I started blogging about my journey to work-life balance, reduce stress, and increase happiness. Now I was accountable to someone- I was accountable to all of you. No more getting my motivational high and repeating the same unmotivated patterns over and over and over. I started doing things differently.

Today, as a career and business coach I notice the motivational junkies at conferences and seminars- they’re just like me. They love inspirational quotes, vision boards, and post motivational messages on Facebook. They come for the high, to feel good for a little while, but ultimately go back to their miserable life.

Like any addict, they think they are okay, especially when they’re not. They think they can go it alone. They think they are in control of their life and nothing is further from the truth.

Look at me- it took 7 surgeries in 6 years for me to realize I wasn’t in control. It took losing my health to accept that I was abusing myself with my expectations, ambition, and never-say-die attitude. I can do it all- just watch me. Yeah, right, watch me sit on my ass in a hospital bed recovering from surgery again and again and again. Watch me suffer in pain from shingles.

I’m here to scare you straight! Or, you know, scare you into action! Action to stop getting high from motivation and to get motivated to do something differently in life.

How to get motivated to create change

how to create change in your life

01. Start one positive habit

Write a daily gratitude list. Choose to have a great day. Take care of yourself. Practice random acts of kindness.

02. Stop one negative habit

Stop complaining. Stop blaming. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing, or not doing.

03. Confront your fears

Change is scary. Stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something new will feel uncomfortable. Confront your fears.

04. Accept responsibility for the quality of your life

Stop waiting to be happy. Start being happy.

05. Get support

Find a group of like-minded people who are living a healthier and happier life. Join a group or club! Spend time with these people!

06. Be accountable

Get a coach. Get an accountability partner. Teach others what you’re learning to do. Find someone to be accountable to.

07. Be the change

Do the work. Be the change.

Ready to create some change? Subscribe to my newsletter. Join my Facebook group. It all starts with one step forward.

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Embrace the unknown

Posted by on Sep 1, 2015 in Change Management | 0 comments

The idea of the unknown is, at times, completely terrifying. What’s going to happen if I’m not following a plan? Where am I going if I don’t know where I’m going?

Somehow, over the years, I’ve become more comfortable with the unknown. Life rarely goes according to plan, and even less often do things turn out the way I expect they will.

I’ve been in many situations that changed when I didn’t want them to, but looking back, the changes seem to have a positive affect on my life. Of course the positive affect isn’t always something I notice at the time, but looking back, I acknowledge the blessings even unwanted change brought me.

Some years ago, I had a job I enjoyed at a company I enjoyed- until my company was bought out. I had a lot of anxiety about the acquisition and my new role- it wasn’t a role I would pick for myself or even something I thought I’d enjoy. Looking back, that company and that job provided me with great friendships, great professional experience, and I even enjoyed the work! When the acquisition was first announced, I was filled with fear and uncertainty, but of course it all worked out just fine, as most things do.

I’ve also experienced those transitional times in life, where I don’t know exactly what’s next, but I know what doesn’t work but I don’t know what does.

Years ago I went through a divorce. My marriage certainly didn’t work out the way I wanted, or the way I thought it would. The end of my marriage changed my entire life plan; I didn’t know what was next. Once again I was fearful and uncertain.

I find myself facing the unknown again today. My professional choices haven’t helped me meet my goals, and so I find myself without a plan. At least temporarily. Do I adjust my strategy? Do I rethink my goals? Am I on the right path? What is the right path?

Today, I’m not afraid of the unknown. I’m embracing the unknown. I’m feeling patient, peaceful, and purposeful. I don’t know what’s next, but I know life is full of opportunity.

I’ve done a lot of conscious and intentional work to get to where I am today. Maybe all I really need to do is get out of my head and let the next step happen. Maybe what I thought I wanted isn’t really what I want at all, and I’ll find myself doing something I love- even if it’s not what I thought I’d love.

I know that real happiness isn’t about getting what I want, it’s about wanting what I get. It’s making the most of what I have.

I’ll be sure to let you know as soon as I know the next step. I’ll tell you one thing, the next step involves continuing my path of enlightenment and growth, which includes writing this blog. I hope you’ll find patience, peace, and purpose reading about my journey, and it will help you navigate your own. :)

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Find Your Inspiration

Posted by on Aug 18, 2015 in Change Management, Get your goals | 0 comments

I lost my inspiration. I lost it for a long while. I wondered if, when, and how I might find it again. In the meantime life had plenty of ups and downs to keep me busy.

A few weeks ago a spark of inspiration started to burn again. It’s not something I did, not really, though my choices did ignite the spark. It came, not from within, but from without.

It started during conversations with wise friends, and continued when I attended a networking group of like-minded individuals, and finally my spark burned bright during a transformative seminar.

Hello, old friend, it’s wonderful to see you again!

The lesson I learned from this experience was the importance of spending time with people who are doing, or aspiring to do, just what you want to do with your life.

Now the hard part was doing something different than I’d been doing. I had to make my personal growth more important than my excuses to sleep in, to binge-watch tv shows on Netflix, to do anything and everything that was keeping me stuck but somehow seemed oh-so-important at the time.

You have to get out there! Find your people, find your tribe, find the supporters of your truth! Listen when someone tells you about an event they’re attending and get off your keister and join them!

And speaking of events, I am extremely excited to attend Awaken Your Impact, a 3 day event in Phoenix in September. I’m out of my slump and ready to awaken! Boy, am I ready! Watch out for big things from me!

And remember what I said about listening? Yeah, this is an opportunity to find your inspiration, too.

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Is it a setback or an opportunity?

Posted by on Sep 27, 2013 in Change Management | 8 comments

In my experience, life rarely goes according to plan. At least not according to my plan. This isn’t because I’m unlucky, or life sucks, or any such nonsense- it happens because, well, I don’t control what happens in life, I only control what I do with my life.

It’s really not a problem when things don’t work out the way I thought they would as long as I let go of my attachment to the outcome and embrace whatever new opportunities are presented to me.

You see, where I get stuck- where most of us get stuck- is feeling as though things not working out the way we plan is a bad thing. We get stuck on our perception that life was supposed to work out one way or another. The key to a successful and happy life is to not get stuck in this moment, at least not for very long, and to look for opportunities in the setback and adjust our plan. Let me give you an example.

Last night I planned to sit down and write today’s blog post but my plan was thwarted by an area-wide internet outage. I thought about writing the post I had planned in a Word document but when I expanded my plans to include other possibilities I realized I really wanted to relax and enjoy the evening- and that’s exactly what I did. This choice to view the internet outage as an opportunity to do something different than I had planned got me thinking about other times a perceived setback wasn’t necessarily a setback at all.

problems are opportunities in disguiseImage credit Jason Tester/ Guerrilla Futures

Several years ago I had just started a great new job when I found out my company was being bought out by a much larger organization and my particular job no longer existed in the new organization. I felt discouraged, stressed, and anxious- as I think most people would- but as it turns out I wasn’t being laid off, I was being offered a different job within the new organization. I decided to embrace the opportunity and expand my skills and experience in this new role, even though it wasn’t a role I would have pursued otherwise.

I worked hard at my new role for 2 and 1/2 years until I realized I was suffering from job burnout. Instead of finding another high-pressure, full-time, corporate job, I decided to try working part-time. What an amazing opportunity to do something completely different than I’d done my entire career! This definitely wasn’t a setback, it was my time to fully embrace work-life balance and do more with my life.

As I thought about this topic more I realized there are opportunities to change my plan every day- like when the car in front of me is driving 10 miles under the speed limit and I choose to perceive at this common annoyance as an opportunity to slow down, take a deep breath, and think of one thing in my life I’m grateful for. For just a moment I stop focusing on where I’m going and focus on where I am right now. Thank you, slow driver, what a gift you’ve given me! Or perhaps it was a gift I gave to myself my simply adjusting my plan and finding the opportunity in the moment.

Now I’m feeling especially grateful for the internet outage last night that got me thinking about this idea. As I go about my day I’m going to look for opportunities to let go of what I had planned and make the most of whatever happens, and I invite you to do the same.

I love your comments! I’d love to hear about a time you saw a potential setback as an opportunity!

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