Have a Little Patience

Posted by on Jan 27, 2012 in Personal Development | 39 comments

In the immortal words of Inigo Montoya, “I hate waiting.”

Patience doesn’t come easy to me. I’m a planner, and a do-er. Once I have decided where I want to go and set on my path, I sometimes struggle to stay grounded in today.

When I lack patience in my life, I am more likely to make hasty decisions, to sacrifice my long term goals for short term gain, and to replace gratitude with impatience.

Patience is right now.

My best life won’t happen when…, it’s happening right now. My best life is rooted in thoughtfulness and purpose, and laughter and joy in this day.

Embracing patience in life inspires happiness, gratitude, and achievement and success. Patience is quiet and calm, peaceful and present.

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Patience is freedom.

When I am no longer willing to tether myself to the future, I am free to simply be.

I practice patience by being grateful for everything that is beautiful in my life today.

I practice patience when I embrace happiness inspired by my goals.

I practice patience when I am guided by my intentions.

I practice patience when I ask myself, “what can I learn in this moment?”

I practice patience when I am open and teachable.

Patience is joy.

Patience begins to come to me with greater ease when I practice acceptance. With patience I am able to live joyfully for today, knowing that tomorrow’s celebrations and struggles will be there tomorrow.

“Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it.”
~Soren Kierkegaard
I love your comments! What does patience mean to you? How do you find patience in your impatience moments?

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39 Comments

  1. Ooooh…you know I loved this one! I heard someone say the other day that “the best moment of my life is this one”

    It made me really think about how much time I do spend in the future or the past.

    Thanks for the reminder to just “be” in gratitude.
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Steve!

      Writing this post was very healing for me. When I sat down to write I was feeling truly impatient and really didn’t know what I was going to write about patience. As it turns out peacefully contemplating patience gave me patience and by the end of the post I was feeling so much better!

      I love the idea that “the best moment of my life is this one” and I am going to add that thought to my toolbox. Being in the moment, as I was when writing about patience, seems to take away all the stress, anxiety, and frustration I feel. Truly enjoying life right now is all it takes to be happy and healthy, no matter where I am or what I’m doing.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  2. Ooh, Chrysta, I can so relate to this one. I’m naturally the kind of person who wants to be productive all the time, speeding through life — you probably already knew that patience isn’t one of my strong points. =P In fact, this is why I think I vibe so well with my partner. He’s so opposite of me that I’m able to find balance through him.

    In the beginning, I was the worst. I’d say something and be tapping my foot a second later, demanding a response. But Roy’s not like that. He takes his time and I’m learning to not only give him that time, but also take my own time when speaking, acting, and living. I guess, patience, to me, is hearing and listening. =) I think that ties in quite nicely with your last point about practicing patience when you’re “open and teachable.” =)

    Loved reflecting on this! =)
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Samantha!

      I wrote this post because I’m not very good at patience, either. I sat down to write this and had no idea what I was going to write! Fortunately I was able to change my perspective just a little and suddenly recognize solutions I didn’t know were there. I’m really proud of this post!

      I loved hearing about you being a good fit with your partner- that’s the best kind of relationship to have! I love when someone I’m with challenges me to be my best, and models positive behavior. My husband and I are a good fit for each other, and he’s much more patient than me. :)

      Thank you for joining the conversation!

      Chrysta

  3. yet another great post that can change your life forever..thanx Chrysta for sharing with us
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Sunil! I appreciate your kindness.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  4. There is a lack of patience in the world at large, symptomatic of people stressed out & rushing around not being mindful about what they want their life and work to be like.I used to be one of those folks too, until I made the decision to create my own work. That’s not to say I don’t get the occasional day when things get a little fraught but if you love what you do and have plenty of fun doing it then you’re in the best possible state to appreciate the importance of patience…you just see the bigger picture better. Life’s a journey & every day is an opportunity to practice mastery.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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    • Thank you for your lovely comment, Kath!

      I agree a lack of patience permeates our world and this is a cause of much unnecessary struggle and unhappiness. Fortunately we each have the opportunity to break away from cultural and societal norms and embrace a peaceful, productive, and patient life!

      Congratulations on your transition from dissatisfied worker to empowered entrepreneur! I am a relatively happy worker, and still one of my long term goals is to work for myself for the increased autonomy, freedom, and personal responsibility. I will be following in your footsteps some day soon.

      No matter what our role in life, there are ups and downs and we can choose what we most want to experience. One of my days of impatience prompted me to write this post, and since writing it this and reading so many wonderful comments my impatience has lessened. This effect is one of my favorite benefits of blogging!

      Thank you for joining the conversation! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  5. Hi Chrysta,

    I never looked patience as this way. I think this is really practical because it can be implemented by anyone. I think that patience is not only an inborn trait. You are patient because you are able to enjoy “now” rather than rush for what is the next thing on agenda.
    I loved this line “I practice patience when I embrace happiness inspired by my goals”. I met a goal yesterday. It was about reaching a target visitors for my blog. I really felt happy and then applied myself to achieve other goals on the way. I am taking them one at a time.

    Thanks for really cool post :)
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Ashvini!

      When I sat down to write about patience I really didn’t know what I was going to write but I felt it was a topic I needed to consider. I was pleased when I realized that patience is really about being in the moment- that’s something I can do!

      Congrats on meeting one of your blogging goals yesterday!!! I am celebrating with you as I hit a new record in page visitors yesterday. Yay, us! :)

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  6. I LOVE this: “My best life won’t happen when…, it’s happening right now”

    This is what it’s all about, isn’t it? All of eternity resides in this single, present moment.

    If I could only live in light of this truth each and every day, wow…what a difference it would make.
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Steve! So lovely to see you this morning. :)

      Like all things, regular practice creates a habit and I’m practicing making a habit of being present in each day. As I make progress on being present, my quality of life has improved quite a bit.

      One of the most unexpected and best effects of blogging is writing about living a great life inspires me to experience a great life just about every day.

      My practice is also supported by developing relationships with awesome and inspiring people like you. I love surrounding myself with positive, wise and purposeful people!

      Thank you for joining the conversation!

      Chrysta

  7. and more over i really like ur images that you use in your blog…they speak a lot ..thanx
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  8. Chrysta Bairre…ur blog is just amazing keep doing the good work.. i just love it
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    • Thanks for your comments, Sunil!

      I’m glad you are enjoying my blog & images. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  9. Chrysta,

    Thanks for the reminders about the positive virtues of patience. I agree, patience is an art – especially when we take the time to wait, and then listen to its lesson.

    Alex

    • Thanks for your comment, Alex! I experience the best things when I wait and listen.

      Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  10. I’ve always been a very impatient person Chrysta. I always told my Dad that I inherited that from him. Of course I’m also a Leo so maybe both of those contributed.

    I’m still impatient although I am also very grateful. I think I’ve gotten much better over the years though I must admit. I just blamed that on old age! :-)
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    • Thanks for your comment, Adrienne! I can always find a smile when I read your comments. :)

      If you are impatient and grateful, perhaps your impatience isn’t as limiting for you as my impatience limits my happiness. We can be impatient about little things or big things, so maybe you are also more impatient about the little things that don’t really matter anyway! I’d like to believe I know you well enough to say any impatience you do have isn’t getting in the way of your health and happiness. You’re such a ray of sunshine. :)

      Thanks for joining the conversation. Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  11. Hey,
    Thanks for the awesome comment, I love your list! xo

    • Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting, Tess! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  12. This is so inspiring Chrysta!

    It’s really hard to be patient. There are a lot of times that I’m very impatient. Sometimes, having quick decisions lead to dissatisfaction. For me, patience is trust – trust in yourself. I have learned how to be patient now and I never allow it to be exploited.

    Seeing life with positive eyes makes me realize that things are going to be better. Accepting the fact that things will not be given to you right away helps me to be more patient. I believe that everything comes in its own time and when you deserve it.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment!

      I love that you mentioned patience is about trust in yourself- what a beautiful and true statement! I feel more patient when I feel more trusting in my ability to make the best of whatever comes next.

      Now that you’ve mentioned trust, I realize that sometimes my impatience is twinged with a little fear- fear of what’s coming that gets mixed up with excitement. Wherever I have fear, there’s usually a false belief that getting there sooner and dealing with it is better than experiencing fear in anticipation.

      What a relief to remember that a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one. It’s also important for me to remember every situation has a little positive and negative, and it is my attitude that determines what I hold on to.

      I’m so grateful you joined in the conversation! Happy Monday!

      Chrysta

  13. Tough topic Chrysta,

    I have struggled tremendously in the past with having patience, myself. I was very much like that old Best Buy commercial where the song played, “I want it all, and I want it NOW!!” The list of things I wanted always seemed to be longer than what I actually had at the moment and what I could afford to get right away. Funny how that usually works out, huh? :D

    This month is my 3 year anniversary of being unemployed. YAY! (But not really) :D A lot has happened over those three years, and it’s truly my belief that these three years have taught me many things; but the most significant and most valuable to me has been getting a little more patience.

    I’m no perfectionist by any stretch of the imagination, but I’m definitely better than I was 4 years ago, that’s for sure.

    I’ve always believe that patience can only be developed by having to go through various life experiences. Each time we make it through something that almost knocked the breath from us, we’ve gained a little bit more patience.

    And while I’d like to keep them at a manageable number, I’ve come to appreciate life’s hiccups. I know that by me handling them successfully; I’m gaining a little more strength for the next matter that’s sure to arrive. With patience, I get to choose to have control over the situation and my reaction to it. :)
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    • Thank you for your awesome comment, Deeone! I loved reading your experience with patience.

      My professional situation has been a crazy roller coaster ride the last 3-4 years, too. During that time I’ve found myself unemployed twice, and had 4 new jobs. It’s been quite the adventure and, like you, I’ve learned a lot- most of it good. And I’ve made something good (this blog!) out of having my career stability and expectations completely changed.

      I find your insights into patience very interesting! The idea that patience comes from experience is fascinating to me, and looking back on my life, I have to say every time I am knocked down and get back up, I do have a little more patience.

      Perhaps I have gained patience from working through difficulties because I have learned more and more how to appreciate what I have today because it might be gone tomorrow. Perhaps it is because I feel increased confidence every time I face a new challenge and realize I can handle it. You’ve given me a new perspective to ponder.

      Thank you, especially, for sharing that patience allows you to choose to have control over your reactions to situations. Beautifully written and very true.

      Have a grateful day, my friend!

      Chrysta

  14. This is a wonderful post! Instead of making a long list of New Years Resolutions, I am focusing on three words. One of the three is Patience. Thank you for this post; it will be a good reference when I feel I need some inspiration this year.

    • Thanks for your awesome comment!

      I am trying a one word goal this year- RELEASE. Release isn’t so much my goal in itself, but the mindset I want to apply to my life and my goals. You made me realize that patience goes right along with release so I guess I’m off to a good start for this year!

      What are your other two words?

      Thanks for joining the conversation! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  15. Chrysta,

    My most impatient moments are when something needs to change. Many times, I want to have the change happen faster than it can. Impatience with change is sometime necessary though.

    Being patient comes in the moments where we are experiencing life’s true joys. We just need to pause and breathe it all in.

    Great theme to think through. Thanks!

    Jon
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    • Thanks for your comment, Jon!

      I relate to wanting change to happen faster than it can, though I find the time it takes is often just what I needed to process the transition.

      Pausing and breathe it all in is a great suggestion, and just what I need when I’m impatient.

      Thank you for joining the conversation! I am grateful for your insights.

      Chrysta

  16. Love the Kierkegaard quote, Chrysta! Like you, I get past my incessant impatience by focusing on gratitude, if only for a quick moment. And for those times I’m NOT motivated to get past the impatience, I remember how much I dislike seeing that trait in my child. Usually that’s all the motivation I need!
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    • Thanks for your comment, Michelle!

      I like the suggestion to think about an impatient child when I feel impatient myself; I can see how that would motivate to let go of impatience because I certainly don’t want to think or feel like a petulant child!

      Gratitude gets me back on track in almost every situation, which is why I practice it as much as I can.

      Thanks for joining the conversation! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

  17. Hi Chrysta,

    Patience is, very definitely a virtue. And you’re right, patience is a pleasurable experience, whilst impatience will only lead to dissatisfaction.

    Of course, it’s not always easy to be patient, but if you can exercise this attitude, you will be more at ease and happier with what you have – right now.

    I think that patience and gratitude go hand in hand somehow.

    I always enjoy reading your posts – now I’m really looking forward to seeing what you have lined up for your “birthday special”.

    Best Regards,
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    • Thanks so much for your awesome comment, Hamish! Lovely to see you, as always.

      Because I have been feeling impatient recently, writing this post was a challenge for me, and of course I found as I wrote it I started to feel more patient and peaceful.

      One particular thought that struck me writing this post was the idea that patience and gratitude go hand-in-hand. When I’m impatient, I’m not feeling grateful for what I have now, or I wouldn’t be wishing I had something else.

      Though I practice gratitude regularly, I can go a few days and forget to be consciously grateful for all that I have. Which, for me, is different from being unconsciously grateful wherein I may be grateful for some things while taking other things for granted.

      Thank you for joining the conversation about patience! I am grateful you enjoyed this post! Have a wonderful day!

      Chrysta

  18. Chrysta,

    My most horrible short-falling is my lack of patience.

    Being online this last year (Birthday is January 31st!!) has taught me so many beautiful, inspiring things in addition to teaching me everything it took to create the website and Alaska Chick’s Blog. A huge blessing in my life. I’m sure, deep in my heart, that it has saved my life… maybe even ME.

    THIS is a beautiful and inspiring post. Thank you.
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    • So lovely to see you, Amber-Lee!

      I quite agree that blogging & interacting with positive people online has taught me many beautiful and inspiring things! I feel so fortunate to have experienced the purposeful sharing of wisdom, inspiration and the general ups & downs of life with you and so many others.

      Happy birthday to you (in 4 days)! My birthday is coming up in 14 days and I have a special post planned. Are you posting anything special for your birthday?

      Thank you for reading, for commenting, and for sharing this experience with me!

      Chrysta

  19. Hey Chrysta,

    I am such an impatient person; I probably shouldn’t be allowed to be here! ;)

    Since I was a kid, I have very impatient; I have a hard time waiting for my results, getting to some place quick and finishing off tasks. Patience is a virtue was what my mom kept reminding me and she said “best things would come to those who wait” but somehow patience just isn’t my cup of tea.

    Though I am trying to change that and learn to breathe in and take it easy… it will be some time before patience comes knocking on my door! I am actually impatient for patience to come by ;)
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    • Thanks for your awesome comment, Hajra!

      The idea that patience is a virtue is true, yet it also implies that it’s unpleasant when nothing could be further from the truth! Impatience is unpleasant and patience is pleasant. (Feel free to disagree.:))

      I am often impatient myself when I believe that now isn’t good enough, and the good stuff happens later, and I want the good stuff now! All I really need to do is appreciate the good that I have right now. Especially because when I get whatever I think I’m waiting for, I’ll probably be too impatient waiting for the next thing to enjoy what I have. (I hope that makes as much sense on the screen as it does in my head.)

      When I think of patience as pleasant, it frees me up a little to look for ways to practice patience. When I think of patience as being a necessary burden, I am far more likely to resist the idea of waiting.

      Thanks so much for joining the conversation! Have a grateful day!

      Chrysta

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