Learning to Love This Life

I was driven to create my best life.

I have been driven to create a better life since I was 8 years old. I remember the moment clearly when I was assaulted by my alcoholic step-father and in that moment that I decided I would create a different life for myself than the life I had known.

I didn’t know how to create a better life, but I was determined to find a way. Careful to avoid the unhealthy habits I saw in my family, I searched for a better way to live.

I sought wisdom and insight from a place of love and compassion, and I was fortunate to discover new ideas that lead me to health, love and joy.

I continue to seek love, wisdom and truth in life, and I continue to live the best life I can possibly live. I express my passion for loving life in my work-life and my blog. Blogging is one practice in living my best life. I reflect on the lessons I’ve learned, and the attitudes and behavior that leads to a good life.

Sharing my experience is a practice of living my best life.

I am not perfect and I love me.

I am not perfect and I love me just as I am. I am a survivor of family alcoholism, sexual assault, family violence and poverty.

Surviving these experiences sparked my desire to a better life- a life of love, joy, gratitude and serenity.

It wasn’t easy to change the attitudes I learned in an abusive family environment and I didn’t know how to be loving. I thought perfection would allow peace and love in my life.

What I found in my quest to be perfect was more struggle. Trying to be perfect didn’t work for me.

What worked for me was learning to love myself just as I am. Growth and progress came once I stopped believing I had to be perfect to deserve good things in my life. I already deserve good things, and that belief allowed me to accept good things when they came to me.

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I love my life.

When I accepted myself as I am, I felt love for my life and I began to live the life I wanted to live- a life of peace, joy and success.

It turns out experiencing a life of love doesn’t mean everything goes my way, or that I am perfect, only that I love myself as I am.

When I extend love to others and my joy and gratitude grows.

I couldn’t, and can’t, control the bad things that happened to me, yesterday or today. I can affect my own attitude, treat myself and my work-life with love, and live the best life possible for me.

I can love myself, celebrate my talents and accept my weaknesses.

I can love my work-life and take the energy, passion and commitment that I feel for loving my life to create success in my career.

I want you to love yourself and your life, just as it is.

I feel so fortunate to love the life I have, loving this life encourages me to share my love with you. I want to share the beautiful truths I have learned about life. I want to inspire you to love your work-life, and create your best life.

Whatever your life experience, I hope you embrace love for your life.

Most career advice is focused on situational definitions of success, but true career success comes from finding love inside yourself and extending that love to your work-life.

When you act and interact with your work-life from a place of confidence, gratitude, wisdom and love, you can have the work-life you desire.

Are you living the life you want?

How have you been inspired to live your best life? Do you love your work-life? I invite you to join me in learning to love this life!

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  1. Chrysta, aloha. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Believe me, this is something that I will share with others over and over.

    It’s interesting, isn’t it, Chrysta, how people can be exposed to similar environments and situations yet the paths they chose to take are entirely different? No doubt about it, Chrysta, you took the high road seeking love, joy, beauty, wisdom and freedom.

    Because of your choice, your life is better and the lives of all of us whom you have touched. Thank you. Aloha. Janet

    • Janet,

      I am so grateful and inspired by your presence in my life! Thank you, friend!

      I believe that some people do not consciously choose to travel a dark path, they just can’t find a light. I consider myself very fortunate to have had access to healthy resources for healing and growth and I believe it’s never too late for any of us to create a life we love.

      Namaste,
      Chrysta

  2. You asked, “how have you been inspired to live your best life?”

    I spend my entire working day around people that I don’t particularly care for; when I say that I mean I don’t have much compassion for them or our differences. And that, scares me. I have only recently made the conscious effort to look at every individual I work with as a human being first, and a co-worker second. To treat them all with compassion and live by the mantra that above all things, these people are not here with the purpose of upsetting me… not on purpose. I’m not that important to them. They probably don’t even realize they are doing what they are doing…

    It’s a struggle, everyday but these people inspire me to live my best life, to be a compassionate person and to live with a truer heart.

    • Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

      Treating others with compassion is something I strive to live by as well. It’s certainly more difficult when co-workers are harmful or hurtful in their words and actions. I wrote a blog entry about compassionate and constructive conflict resolution here: http://livelovework.wordpress.com/2011/04/22/practice-constructive-and-respectful-conflict-resolution/

      I once heard it said that in human interaction 90% of someone’s behavior is about their past, and 10% is a direct response to the current situation. I like to consider this when I’m having a difficult time relating to others, because I can allow that this person isn’t being intentially harmful to me, they are usually responding to a current situation based on past harms and fear of future harm. This idea can really help me put the interaction into perspective, and not take someone else’s behavior personally.

      It also helps me to remember that I don’t have to pick up what they are holding out to me. If someone else is acting negatively, I can see the negativity and choose not to take it from them and carry it around with me all day. I am my own person and can influence and create my own path. I decide what kind of day I’m going to have today.

      I’m pleased to hear from you and I congratulate you for living your best life to the best of your ability!

  3. What an incredibly moving post! I love that even at such young age you knew what you wanted differently for your life. Your positive attitude is incredible!

    • Thank you so much for your kind reply, Barbara.

      This post was challenging for me to write. I have shared my story before in smaller venues but this is the first time I’ve shared it with such a public audience. I was inspired to share my story after watching Ashley Judd’s Tedx talk. I realized that I’ve been inspired and learned how to live a better life in part by listening/reading stories of others like Ashley, and I wanted to share mine in hopes it might inspire someone else.

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  4. Hi Chrysta,
    Love that I found your blog today, great site! Would you consider visiting http:// authentic-woman.net and perhaps sharing a bit of your stories with my readers?

    Thanks,
    Clara.