What makes a kick-ass day? Is it everything going your way? It is luck? Is it everything happening according to plan- no way!
Most of the time you choose what kind of day you’re going to have. In some cases, you don’t actively choose but by not choosing you end up having a reactive day- being knocked around like a pinball against the flippers and bumpers of your life.
I’ve had a string of not-so-good, even very bad, days. It went on for weeks. I struggled and kicked and screamed and it didn’t get better. Or, I might say, it didn’t get better until I remembered I decide what kind of day I’m going to have.
With a few small positive habits I went from having a string of bad days to a string of good days. Nothing changed but me.
Start and end your day with a few simple stretches- whatever stretches feel good to you. Where are you tight and tense? Gently stretch those areas- give ‘em a little TLC.
Stretching engages you in your body and helps you be grounded within yourself. When you’re grounded and relaxed in your own body all that stuff that happens in your day is less likely to knock you around.
Start and end your day with gratitude, too. Write a short, or long, gratitude list. Think of all the things that are great!
It’s easy to focus on the bad stuff that happens to you, and gratitude helps you gain perspective, balancing the good and the bad. When you have perspective you are able to face challenges with calm and grace, and make more mindful decisions.
Respond to the world with love instead of fear. Ask yourself, “how can I be loving in this moment?” Loving not to just one individual- loving to yourself, those around you, and the world. Imagine what would it look like to relate to the world with love.
When you’re thoughts, words, and actions are motivated by fear you’re usually not making the best choices for you or anyone else. When you respond with love, you make choices you and those around you can live with.
(I know this one may feel awkward, difficult, or strange but try it, it works!)
Get a good night’s sleep, take a nap, take a break! Take care of yourself.
You’re not at your best when you’re running on empty so make sleep and rest a priority. No excuses! Do it!
Drink plenty of water- starting first thing in the morning and throughout the day.
Dehydration does a number on your body- and your mind. Even mild dehydration will affect your stress levels, and your ability to make good decisions.
At the start of your day, make a choice to have a kick-ass day. Take it a step further and tell others, “I’m gonna rock this day!”
When you set an intention everything else seems to fall into place. You have a purpose and the world will conspire to help you achieve that purpose! No, really, it’s true!
Life goes a little easier when you feel good about yourself. Not only that, your relationships with other people are improved when you have a healthy sense of confidence.
What so many people get wrong is confidence doesn’t come from the outside in, it comes from the inside out. Feeling good about yourself starts with you and you alone. It’s not what others think of you, your success, or what you look like- it’s how you feel about you and how you treat yourself.
When you feel good about yourself you generally feel better about others, too. With a healthy confidence you’re less bothered by minor disagreements and small setbacks. You have a healthy, positive, and strong sense of self!
So what if you don’t feel that good about yourself right now? How do you feel better about yourself. It won’t happen overnight- at least it didn’t for me. It took a regular practice of self-affirming action to feel good about me. Even still, I experience moments of self-doubt but I can shake it off and get back on track with a happier, healthier life.
You can’t feel good about anything if you’re running on empty. Eat well, take breaks, exercise (even a short walk will do!)- take care of you! With regular self-care you build a solid foundation to be your best self!
Stop putting yourself down in your thoughts and words. You believe what you tell yourself, and other people believe what you say about yourself, too. If you think or say something unkind about yourself, immediately think or say at least two positive statements about yourself.
Do something you’re good at every day. It doesn’t matter what it is. If you have excellent penmanship you can hand-write a note. If you’re an artist, create something!
You do something great every day- what did you do today? Celebrate your accomplishment! You did it!
Minding other people’s business is an effective way to drive yourself, and others, crazy! You can’t control other people but you can make the best of your life. If you find yourself becoming preoccupied with another person’s behavior, stop and focus your attention on the task in front of you.
Oh, mistakes. Everyone makes them, but not everyone makes the best of them. Mistakes are nothing to be ashamed of- they are opportunities to improve. Hold your head high and move forward!
Everyone has flaws and your flaws don’t make you a bad person- you’re only human. Accept your shortcomings, don’t judge them. It’s okay to be flawed. Extend your acceptance to others, too.
When you’re faced with a difficult decision, avoid reacting emotionally. Instead, respond with dignity and grace. Be someone you can be proud of. Feel good about you!
What’s your attitude today? Is your attitude improving your experience? Your attitude influences your happiness, your health, and your success. And it’s not just you- it affects other people, too.
I work with a perfectly wonderful woman who has an unfortunate attitude. When her attitude isn’t getting the better of her, she’s great! But lately her attitude has turned negative- she’s judgmental, snarky, and downright rude. While I’m often able to avoid taking on other people’s attitudes, there is truth to the idea that attitudes are contagious and, well, I caught her attitude like a nasty bout of the flu.
I found myself feeling irritable and resentful. I complained about her. I thought about her when I wasn’t at work. Then it hit me- that’s not the way I choose to live my life. I want to make the best of the life I have. I want to be happy.
I chose to change my attitude. I chose to live the life I want.
What do you want your life to be like? How do you choose to interact with your family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers?
If you’re like me and you want a great life you can choose any attitude you want. It may take practice, but at any moment of any day you can reboot your attitude.
Complaining focusing on everything you don’t want more of in your life. Focus on the good stuff in people and you’ll notice more and more of the good stuff that’s already there!
You’re likely to feel unhappy and stuck if you focus your attention on problems. Instead, try focusing on solutions.
Brainstorm possible solutions to the problem you’re facing. Ask others what’s worked for them. If you’re stuck, shift your attention to a problem you can solve.
Decide what’s important to you and practice letting go of everything else. If something is not truly important to you, why let it worry you? If it’s not part of the life you want for yourself, it’s probably not important.
No matter your situation, there are reasons to be grateful. Write a gratitude list, say thank you, be actively grateful and you’ll notice you feel happier and more content with the life you have right now.
Big or small, take a moment to acknowledge your victories. What have you accomplished today? Enjoy it!
Smiling has this funny way of improving your attitude. Smiling boosts your mood, and has a positive impact on people around you which in turn causes them to smile and have a positive impact on you!
It’s difficult to have a positive attitude when you are hungry or tired. Eat regular, healthy meals. Get a good night’s sleep. Take breaks. Breathe deep. Take care of you!
Each and every day, do something you love to do.
You believe what you say. If someone asks how you’re doing, tell them you’re doing great- with enthusiasm! You may not feel great in the moment but you will start to feel it when you say it and realize you have no good reason not to be great! (Come on, do you really have a reason not to be great today?)
You can only do what you can do so let that be enough. It IS enough.