Stop living for your dreams and live for today

Posted by on Dec 1, 2015 in Achieving Goals, Personal Development | 0 comments

Dare to dream big. Follow your dreams. Never stop reaching for your dreams.

Screw that! Aren’t you tired of being screwed over by your dreams? Wait- what?! Yes, here I am, an inspirational writer and speaker telling you your dreams are screwing up your life.

Let me explain.

I believe in the power of dreams. Dreams give us hope. Dreams provide motivation. Dreams give us permission to take risks. Dreams turn the impossible into the possible.

But let’s step back a moment. Are your dreams just that- dreams? Are you waiting for your fairytale ending? Are you wishing your life away?

Have you been keeping all possibility of your happiness in your dreams?

Stop living FOR your dreams and live for today. Make the most of this day. 

Take care of yourself. Practice gratitude. Be kind. Create balance in your life. Love well. Be happy here and now.

When you live for today you create abundance and joy in your life, and your life is full. When you have everything you truly need just for today, then you can pursue and achieve your dreams.

When your life is painful and hard, your dreams are unfulfilled happiness.

Just for today, live life for this day. Create a life you love. Pursue tomorrow’s dreams with today’s purpose.

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The Power of Gratitude

Posted by on Nov 24, 2015 in Personal Development | 0 comments

Many of us think of gratitude around Thanksgiving, and we count our blessings for a few days or maybe a few weeks. The rest of the year we leave this wonderful tool gathering dust in our hearts and minds without awareness of what a gift it truly is.

Gratitude brings comfort and joy to life. Gratitude provides perspective in difficult times. Gratitude is an effective treatment for anxiety and depression as I have personally experienced. Gratitude reminds us of all that we have to balance out corporations spending billions trying to convince us our lives are still incomplete (You are not incomplete).

Gratitude reminds us to be kind, it allows us to be happy, and it fills our lives with abundance.

I invite you to open your life to gratitude all year long. Keep a gratitude journal. Participate in a gratitude challenge. Start a gratitude meditation. Embrace the power gratitude has to improve your life, your health, and your happiness. To encourage a regular practice of gratitude, here are 21 quotes to inspire gratitude!

21 quotes on the power of gratitude

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21 Thoughts to Inspire a Practice of Gratitude

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” ~Marcel Proust

“Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.” ~Doris Day

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” ~Marcus Tullius Cicero

“If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.” ~Frank A. Clark

“Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.” ~The Hausa of Nigeria

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” ~Buddha

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~Robert Brault

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” ~Denis Waitley

“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.” ~Alphonse Karr

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~Oprah Winfrey

“If the only prayer you say in your life is thank you, that would suffice.” ~Meister Eckhart

“Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.” ~John Wooden

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” ~John F. Kennedy

“We should certainly count our blessings, but we should also make our blessings count.” ~Neal A. Maxwell

“As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily. The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world. ” ~Adabella Radici

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ~Albert Einstein

“Gratitude for the seemingly insignificant—a seed—this plants the giant miracle.” ~Ann Voskamp

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” ~Epictetus

“Two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we take; the larger kind we feel for what we give.” ~Edwin Arlington Robinson

“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.” ~W.T. Purkiser

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How to have a happy and healthy holiday season

Posted by on Nov 17, 2015 in Personal Development, Stress Management | 0 comments

The holidays are both a wonderful and awful time of the year. There are celebrations and joy but also struggle and stress. The holiday hustle and bustle is no joke and it leaves many of us overextended, exhausted, and depressed.

Why not get a jump start on your goals for next year? Make healthy goals to get you through the holidays and set you up for success in the new year!

How to have a happy and healthy holiday season

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01. Say no

Say no to overextending yourself in 3 key areas- in your energy, finances, and diet. When you overextend yourself, you use resources you don’t have and create a deficit that you’ll be paying for well into the new year. Say no to overcommitting, overspending, and overeating.

Need tips on how and when to say no? Sign up for my newsletter and get instant access to a recording of my Compelling Confidence webinar, including how and when to say no.

02. Adjust your expectations

Most holiday stress is self-imposed when we try to create a perfect holiday. How about aiming for a perfectly pleasant holiday, even if it’s not perfect?

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.

03. Practice self care

Taking good care of your mental, emotional, and physical health is important to enjoying a happy and healthy holiday! The better you care for yourself, the more energy you’ll have, the less stress you’ll feel, and you’ll be less likely to get sick during the holidays (or immediately after).

Here are some self care ideas to get you started.

04. Be kind

Kindness is practice we can all benefit from- even the smallest act of kindness will improve your attitude and your day. If you really want to have a magical holiday season, be kind every day. (That includes being kind to yourself!)

“Be kind; everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” ~Ian Maclaren

05. Reach out for help

Millions of people struggle with depression every day and it only seems to intensify during the holidays. If you’re struggling, reach out. If you aren’t struggling, share depression and suicide prevention resources for those who are.

Where to get help:

US Suicide Hotline 800-784-2433
NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group 800-826-3632
Suicide Prevention Services Crisis Hotline 800-784-2433
Suicide Prevention Services Depression Hotline 630-482-9696

06. Let go

Let go of something you’ve been holding on to.  Let go of a to-do, a dream, an expectation- anything that’s keeping you from enjoying each day to the fullest.

07. Forgive

Forgive yourself or someone else this holiday season. Chances are you’re holding a grudge against someone. Practice forgiveness.

“Forgiveness is not an act after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment.” ~David Ridge

08. Don’t take life, or the holidays, too seriously

The spirit of the holidays is generosity and fun- don’t take life too seriously!

09. Keep it in perspective

Like all things, the holidays are temporary. Don’t lose focus on your goals, your health, or your happiness. Stay on track with healthy habits!

10. Be grateful

Gratitude isn’t just for Thanksgiving! Gratitude is a wonderful way to lighten the mood, manage expectations, adjust perspective, and just plain be happy!

I’ve got 42 ways to be grateful!

11. Take what you like and leave the rest

Enjoy all the holidays have to offer, and let go of everything else. You don’t have to go toe-to-toe with your uncle’s political ranting, you don’t have to get offended by your neighbor’s choice of holiday decor, and you don’t have to invite every argument you’re invited to! Enjoy the holidays and leave it at that!

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