Last week I got fired. I have to be honest, a big part of the reason I wasn’t too upset about getting fired was the organization management wasn’t a good fit for me. I’d thought about quitting so many times over the past 9 months. So. Many. Times.
I’d applied for other jobs, even been on some interviews, but I kept thinking about what I really wanted to do with my life and it wasn’t getting another job.
Since I started writing this blog four years ago I thought about turning this blog into a business. It was always something I thought I’d do…. someday. It turns out someday is today.
Over the years I’ve coached and mentored friends, co-workers, and my fellow Toastmaster members. I’ve held leadership positions both inside and outside the workplace. I’ve spoken at Ignite Fort Collins, Toastmasters, professional associations, and facilitated a 3 hour training at a corporate retreat. I’ve been preparing for this. I’ve been training for this. I’m open for business!
I’m ready to take it to the next level and I hope you’ll join me. It’s YOUR turn to step up YOUR game. I want to help you take it to the next level. What’s holding you back? What have you got to lose?
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I was fired from my job last week. I packed up my desk and drove straight to my Toastmasters meeting. My fellow members were surprised to see me considering I was just fired. “What am I going to do,” I asked them, “go home and mope?” No, truly there’s no where else I’d rather be than in the company of my one of my greatest support groups- my Toastmasters club. We had a great Toastmasters meeting, and I was in good spirits the rest of the evening.
I’ll admit, I did wonder what would happen the next day. Would I be wracked with self-doubt? Would I fall into a depression? Would I lay in bed in my pajamas and not get up? None of those things happened, and I continue to be in good spirits. I’m excited for my next opportunity! I’m hopeful, and encouraged, and motivated!
How did this happen? How did I become a high functioning adult that doesn’t let other people’s actions bring me down? How did I become someone that doesn’t need other people’s approval? How did I become a strong, confident woman that believes in myself? But wait- isn’t that’s what this blog is all about? It is!
I’ve been working on becoming happy, healthy, and balanced in my life and I’ve come so far. What a wonderful accomplishment! I’m not yet finished become the person I want to be; for certain it is a lifelong journey. I am happy to say I’ve made great progress.
I want to acknowledge this achievement and share some the wisdom that got me here.
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Loosing a job is one of the most stressful situations that will happen to you, but everyone I know has experienced it and we all moved on to other professional opportunities. Job loss is temporary.
You’ve got nothing to gain by beating yourself up. Give yourself a break! Be kind to yourself.
Lean on your support system. Let your friends and family help you- we all need help sometimes.
Every experience in life is a learning opportunity, and it’s the most difficult situations that provide the most growth. Be open to learning the lessons you need to learn. There is power in facing your mistakes and moving on.
I’ve fired employees and I’ve been fired- there is fault on both sides. Let’s face it, when an employee gets fired there’s a lack of leadership on some level.
Always file for unemployment, even if you were fired. The state department of labor makes a determination on your eligibility based on your statement and a statement from your former employer. The department of labor is impartial- let them make the decision on your eligibility.
Even if you don’t qualify for unemployment, there are often resources available for job seekers through your local workforce center- use them!
Whatever happened at your job, you have skills and experience to offer. Look for opportunities to work through volunteering, helping an elderly neighbor with physical tasks, or other community involvement.
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Imagine you are writing the story of your life. Every day is a new page, a fresh start. Your life is a “choose your own adventure” book. What adventure will you choose today?
Taking responsibility and ownership of your life and your choices is paramount to happiness. You write your story. But it’s easy to lose focus and forget you can pick up a pen and decide what direction you’re headed.
How many times have I let someone else write my story? Oh, so many. I let other people’s opinions of me dictate my life and decide what choice I make next.
What about the times I stopped writing my story to write someone else’s? When I become so bothered by or jealous of someone else that the story I tell myself every day is all about them, not me.
All these short stories are not about me. At least I hope they are short. Maybe just a poem, or a haiku, so I can get back to writing my own story.
I feel I must admit to you now that lately I’ve been writing someone else’s story, and they have been writing mine. I find myself frustrated and angry at the things they are saying about me- that I don’t take work too seriously (well, that’s actually true), that I am unreliable, and that I don’t get things done. I’ve been letting this person’s story about me change my behavior. Then of course I analyze their behavior and start writing a story about them; they are emotional, fear-focused, and judgmental.This person is the one that’s unreliable, and here’s a handy list of all the times they let ME down!
I find myself thinking about these stories more than my own. Let me tell you, I’ve got a great story to write about my own life! It’s heartbreaking and heartwarming, it’s a triumph of the human spirit. It has loss, laughter, love, challenge, and, above all, great joy and happiness.
I’ve got a great story to write about my own life!
Today I’m writing this blog post to hold myself accountable. It’s time to get back to writing MY story.
What story are you writing today?
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