What’s your attitude today? Is your attitude improving your experience? Your attitude influences your happiness, your health, and your success. And it’s not just you- it affects other people, too.
I work with a perfectly wonderful woman who has an unfortunate attitude. When her attitude isn’t getting the better of her, she’s great! But lately her attitude has turned negative- she’s judgmental, snarky, and downright rude. While I’m often able to avoid taking on other people’s attitudes, there is truth to the idea that attitudes are contagious and, well, I caught her attitude like a nasty bout of the flu.
I found myself feeling irritable and resentful. I complained about her. I thought about her when I wasn’t at work. Then it hit me- that’s not the way I choose to live my life. I want to make the best of the life I have. I want to be happy.
I chose to change my attitude. I chose to live the life I want.
What do you want your life to be like? How do you choose to interact with your family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers?
If you’re like me and you want a great life you can choose any attitude you want. It may take practice, but at any moment of any day you can reboot your attitude.
Complaining focusing on everything you don’t want more of in your life. Focus on the good stuff in people and you’ll notice more and more of the good stuff that’s already there!
You’re likely to feel unhappy and stuck if you focus your attention on problems. Instead, try focusing on solutions.
Brainstorm possible solutions to the problem you’re facing. Ask others what’s worked for them. If you’re stuck, shift your attention to a problem you can solve.
Decide what’s important to you and practice letting go of everything else. If something is not truly important to you, why let it worry you? If it’s not part of the life you want for yourself, it’s probably not important.
No matter your situation, there are reasons to be grateful. Write a gratitude list, say thank you, be actively grateful and you’ll notice you feel happier and more content with the life you have right now.
Big or small, take a moment to acknowledge your victories. What have you accomplished today? Enjoy it!
Smiling has this funny way of improving your attitude. Smiling boosts your mood, and has a positive impact on people around you which in turn causes them to smile and have a positive impact on you!
It’s difficult to have a positive attitude when you are hungry or tired. Eat regular, healthy meals. Get a good night’s sleep. Take breaks. Breathe deep. Take care of you!
Each and every day, do something you love to do.
You believe what you say. If someone asks how you’re doing, tell them you’re doing great- with enthusiasm! You may not feel great in the moment but you will start to feel it when you say it and realize you have no good reason not to be great! (Come on, do you really have a reason not to be great today?)
You can only do what you can do so let that be enough. It IS enough.
Work-life balance is not static- there’s an ebb and flow. Sometimes you need to go easy and sometimes you need to push harder.
If you’re the type that naturally pushes harder (like me!), you’re likely to experience stress and related health issues.
If you’re the type that naturally goes easy, you may find yourself not making much progress and generally feeling dissatisfied with life.
There’s no blueprint for work-life balance, especially work-life balance that goes hand-in-hand with professional success. To achieve real work-life balance, you adjust your efforts as needed. Have a big project coming up? This is the time to work hard for success! Feeling unfocused and uninspired? Go ahead and take the time you need to relax and recharge!
I’ve recently learned about the ebb and flow of work-life balance in my life. After leaving a burnout job, I needed to take it easy. While I was taking it easy (or easier, at least), I started experiencing some health issues that really knocked me on my butt. I got in the habit of going easy on myself- maybe even too easy. I was no longer pushing, even when the situation called for it- even when it was good for me.
Then it hit me- I was taking it so easy I had become complacent. I felt weak and tired not from a lack of rest but from a lack of mental exercise and stimulation. I realized I needed to push a little harder than I had been pushing.
Work-life balance is not a destination, it’s a way of living each and every day. You can’t screw it up because in any given moment you can stop, reflect, and choose to go easy or push harder. You find the balance in the day-to-day.
What do you need to do today? Go easy, or push harder?
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How often does life go according to plan, really? My life doesn’t often happen the way I think it will, the way I want it to, or the way I plan for it to go.
A lot of things haven’t been going according to plan lately, but it strikes me that life isn’t bad- not bad at all- just not what I was going for. For example, publishing a new post on Friday instead of Monday.
Sometimes I find myself feeling frustrated or overwhelmed that life isn’t going according to plan- don’t we all? Then I remember that I don’t need to get what I want to be happy. (Yes, really!) And I remember that success is making the best of the life I have.
So what if life doesn’t go according to plan? All I really have to do is adjust my plan and make the most of what’s in front of me.
Today I will be happy because whether or not life goes according to plan, I choose to be happy. Today I will make the best of today. Today I will live a purposeful life and realized it doesn’t matter how it all turns out in the end (and it will all turn out okay in the end!) I invite you to join me!