I was frustrated. I was stuck. I felt like a failure.
That was me this morning. And maybe the last few days, too.
I happen to believe getting stuck every now and again is a good thing, however, because getting stuck is part of the process of growth, change, and improvement. I get stuck so I can get unstuck.
Sometimes I need that perspective shift from stuck to unstuck to fully appreciate what I can do. Sometimes I need that perspective shift to refocus my efforts to doing more great things and less not-so-great things. Sometimes I need that perspective shift as a source of inspiration to do something amazing.
There I was just a few hours ago when I happened upon an awesome article that gave me some perspective on my failure. I began challenging my failure mindset.
We all get stuck. We all fail. Every. single. one. of. us. So what?
Are you feeling stuck? Are you a failure? That’s no reason not to believe in yourself, but here are some great reasons to believe in yourself.
You’ve got a lot going for you. Actually, you’re quite awesome! Believe in your own awesomeness.
“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” ~Marianne Williamson
You’re really good at something. Multiple somethings! And you do what you’re good at.
“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” ~Edward Everett Hale
You’re naturally curious and you are continually learning and growing.
“The capacity to learn is a gift; The ability to learn is a skill; The willingness to learn is a choice.” ~Brian Herbert
It’s important that you care and you do. You care about yourself, other people, and the world.
“Never believe that a few caring people can’t change the world. For, indeed, that’s all who ever have.” ~Margaret Mead
Not only do you care, you try to make things better, even when you don’t succeed.
“Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.” ~Brian Littrell
You haven’t figured it all out yet, no one ever does, but that doesn’t stop you from trying.
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~Thomas A. Edison
Every time you care, every time you try, you are getting better and better.
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” ~Emile Coue
Your imperfectness makes you human, it makes you precious. You are precious.
“We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks. That’s what connects us–that we’re all broken, all beautifully imperfect.” ~Emilio Estevez
Failure is not weakness, it is not shame. Failure is a sign of strength, of fortitude, and wisdom. You are wiser than you know.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more wisely.” ~Henry Ford
So you’re stuck- it’s not permanent. So you failed- it’s not forever. Use this experience to empower, motivate, and inspire. Shift your mindset. Choose your attitude. Believe in yourself.
Join me and other awesome people in believing in ourselves and being bold in our work and our lives.Join the Conversation
Is your inbox out of control? Does Facebook steal hours of your life? Is your head naturally tilted downward from looking at your phone?
Yeah, me too.
Fortunately I recently had the opportunity to revisit a topic I’ve written about before when I was invited to facilitate a Lunch n’ Learn on decluttering your digital life. And it was a topic I needed to revisit.
It’s time to declutter if you want to do more of what you love and less of things you don’t.
If you’re in need of decluttering, you’ve come to the right place! How do you know you need a digital clearing? Well, if you want to do more of what you love and less of everything else, you may need to declutter. Read on, my friend, read on.
Our lives are run by our devices. Most of us spend more than 5 non-work hours per day staring at digital devices. Hey, I resemble that remark! Errr……
I don’t know about you, but I want to live a meaningful and fulfilled life and, well, that’s not typically what’s happening when I’m engrossed with a screen. I want to spend my time focusing on things that add value to my life. I want to do more of what’s important and enjoyable, and less of everything else.
There’s just one question I ask myself, “what value is this adding to my life?”
Common digital distractions include:
All of these activities can be amusing or entertaining in the short term but are ultimately distractions and take time away from more important things in the long term. Important things like quality time with family and friends, being mindful and present in the moment, getting a good night’s sleep, and living a life you love.
Take a moment and consider what areas of your digital life may need to be addressed. There’s just one question to ask yourself, “what value is this adding to my life?”
Now that you know where you need to declutter, the question is how. (And the answer is below!)
Is that email subscription adding value to your life? If not, unsubscribe! There’s an easy way to do it, too. Use unroll.me to unsubscribe from lists en masse. Easy peasy!
Love your coupons? Use filters in your email to send all your marketing subscriptions to a folder where you can find the coupons when you need them without having all those emails clogging up your inbox.
Choose 2-3 social media sites that are your favorite and stick with those. You can’t be everything to everyone and you can’t be on every social media site and still do all the other things you’d like to do with your life.
If you have to be on social media for business, use a social media scheduler such as Hootsuite to easily manage and schedule updates on your various accounts in one place. You don’t actually need to be on social media all day every day.
Facebook is fun, isn’t it? Until it’s not. Unlike pages you don’t enjoy following. Unfollow people that post racist drivel. Hide posts you don’t want to see like quizzes, and articles from pseudo-news sites such as Huffington Post or fluff sites like BuzzFeed.
And while we’re on the subject of Facebook, turn off notifications from games, email notifications, and yes, you can even turn off notifications for specific posts. Because, really, when my friend’s dog dies I don’t need Facebook alerting me every time someone offers condolences.
You’ve got work to do, or possibly even life to enjoy, and the digital onslaught just keeps coming. Did you know there are apps that block social media and other digital distractions so you can get some work done? These apps allow you to set times to restrict sites so you’re not so tempted to watch 45 minutes of kitten videos every afternoon.
An alternative to using a distraction free app is to set a timer to limit your time on social media, or set an alarm to remind you to turn off all digital devices as you’re winding down for the evening. Setting a bedtime alarm is helpful if you end up getting to bed too late due to digital distractions.
The bright blue hues of digital devices disrupt sleeping patterns. It’s best to avoid digital devices in bed, but if you must keep your device nearby, there are a variety of apps that change the screen color to be less disruptive to your sleeping patterns.
That said, please do consider keeping your digital device away from your bed lest you be tempted to check your email when you wake up at 1:02 a.m. That’s never a good thing. Trust me, I know.
When you’re out for dinner, having dinner at home, or some other social activity, start a game with your family and friends- the first person to check his/her phone in a social setting has to pick up the tab for the next dinner.
Decide what you’re going to do with all that extra time! Actively choosing how you spend your time and energy will improve your quality of life, reduce overwhelm, and it will make it easier not to get sucked back into digital distractions.
Some of the Lunch n’ Learn participants are using their extra time to journal, spend time with family, and go for a walk. What do you choose to do?
If you want to create more positive habits that support your success, join me over on Facebook for a Declutter Your Digital Life Challenge!Join the Conversation
For years before I started blogging I was a motivational junkie. I read blogs, books, and articles that were motivational and inspirational. I attended seminars and programs that filled my head with encouragement. Getting motivated was a high.
When my health hit bottom, I realized I needed to make some changes. Real changes. I started blogging about my journey to work-life balance, reduce stress, and increase happiness. Now I was accountable to someone- I was accountable to all of you. No more getting my motivational high and repeating the same unmotivated patterns over and over and over. I started doing things differently.
Today, as a career and business coach I notice the motivational junkies at conferences and seminars- they’re just like me. They love inspirational quotes, vision boards, and post motivational messages on Facebook. They come for the high, to feel good for a little while, but ultimately go back to their miserable life.
Like any addict, they think they are okay, especially when they’re not. They think they can go it alone. They think they are in control of their life and nothing is further from the truth.
Look at me- it took 7 surgeries in 6 years for me to realize I wasn’t in control. It took losing my health to accept that I was abusing myself with my expectations, ambition, and never-say-die attitude. I can do it all- just watch me. Yeah, right, watch me sit on my ass in a hospital bed recovering from surgery again and again and again. Watch me suffer in pain from shingles.
I’m here to scare you straight! Or, you know, scare you into action! Action to stop getting high from motivation and to get motivated to do something differently in life.
Change is scary. Stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something new will feel uncomfortable. Confront your fears.
Stop waiting to be happy. Start being happy.
Find a group of like-minded people who are living a healthier and happier life. Join a group or club! Spend time with these people!
Get a coach. Get an accountability partner. Teach others what you’re learning to do. Find someone to be accountable to.
Do the work. Be the change.Join the Conversation