You’re not a human doing, you’re a human being.
You may have noticed this little corner of the blogosphere has been quiet lately. I’ve been taking some time- time to be.
A little over a year ago I took a leap of faith and since I began this new life adventure I’ve learned a lot. Really, a lot.
After all these new lessons and new experiences I found myself thinking. And thinking. And thinking and thinking and thinking. I pondered my life and I asked myself, “what’s next?” The answer never came. I wasn’t going to think my way out of this one.
It wasn’t a conscious decision to stop trying to figure out what it all meant. I suppose I just stopped trying because I was tired of thinking much. I stopped thinking and I stopped pondering and I stopped (or paused) blogging.
As it turns out, the way out is through. I didn’t need to figure out what I’d learned and what it meant, I just needed to be.
Progress isn’t always forward motion. Now that I’m writing this out, it occurs to me that more often than not my path is revealed to me when I stop trying to figure out what’s next.
I’ve spent the last few months just being. Living my life day-to-day, not judging or questioning or planning. It was just what I needed.
Here I am, inspired once again to share this amazing life journey with you. Refreshed and renewed and taking each day as it comes.
Sure, I have ideas and goals and plans but mostly I’m just enjoying life for what it is. I’m not focusing on tomorrow, I’m reveling in today.
So I ask you, dear friends, when was the last time you stopped doing so much? Stopped planning and working and thinking? When was the last time you simply experienced your life and appreciated the ups and the downs, realizing that right here, right now, life is pretty good?
I invite you to take a moment to just be. Heck, take a day. No matter where you end up tomorrow, you only have today.Join the Conversation
What makes a kick-ass day? Is it everything going your way? It is luck? Is it everything happening according to plan- no way!
Most of the time you choose what kind of day you’re going to have. In some cases, you don’t actively choose but by not choosing you end up having a reactive day- being knocked around like a pinball against the flippers and bumpers of your life.
I’ve had a string of not-so-good, even very bad, days. It went on for weeks. I struggled and kicked and screamed and it didn’t get better. Or, I might say, it didn’t get better until I remembered I decide what kind of day I’m going to have.
With a few small positive habits I went from having a string of bad days to a string of good days. Nothing changed but me.
Start and end your day with a few simple stretches- whatever stretches feel good to you. Where are you tight and tense? Gently stretch those areas- give ‘em a little TLC.
Stretching engages you in your body and helps you be grounded within yourself. When you’re grounded and relaxed in your own body all that stuff that happens in your day is less likely to knock you around.
Start and end your day with gratitude, too. Write a short, or long, gratitude list. Think of all the things that are great!
It’s easy to focus on the bad stuff that happens to you, and gratitude helps you gain perspective, balancing the good and the bad. When you have perspective you are able to face challenges with calm and grace, and make more mindful decisions.
Respond to the world with love instead of fear. Ask yourself, “how can I be loving in this moment?” Loving not to just one individual- loving to yourself, those around you, and the world. Imagine what would it look like to relate to the world with love.
When you’re thoughts, words, and actions are motivated by fear you’re usually not making the best choices for you or anyone else. When you respond with love, you make choices you and those around you can live with.
(I know this one may feel awkward, difficult, or strange but try it, it works!)
Get a good night’s sleep, take a nap, take a break! Take care of yourself.
You’re not at your best when you’re running on empty so make sleep and rest a priority. No excuses! Do it!
Drink plenty of water- starting first thing in the morning and throughout the day.
Dehydration does a number on your body- and your mind. Even mild dehydration will affect your stress levels, and your ability to make good decisions.
At the start of your day, make a choice to have a kick-ass day. Take it a step further and tell others, “I’m gonna rock this day!”
When you set an intention everything else seems to fall into place. You have a purpose and the world will conspire to help you achieve that purpose! No, really, it’s true!Join the Conversation
Life goes a little easier when you feel good about yourself. Not only that, your relationships with other people are improved when you have a healthy sense of confidence.
What so many people get wrong is confidence doesn’t come from the outside in, it comes from the inside out. Feeling good about yourself starts with you and you alone. It’s not what others think of you, your success, or what you look like- it’s how you feel about you and how you treat yourself.
When you feel good about yourself you generally feel better about others, too. With a healthy confidence you’re less bothered by minor disagreements and small setbacks. You have a healthy, positive, and strong sense of self!
So what if you don’t feel that good about yourself right now? How do you feel better about yourself. It won’t happen overnight- at least it didn’t for me. It took a regular practice of self-affirming action to feel good about me. Even still, I experience moments of self-doubt but I can shake it off and get back on track with a happier, healthier life.
You can’t feel good about anything if you’re running on empty. Eat well, take breaks, exercise (even a short walk will do!)- take care of you! With regular self-care you build a solid foundation to be your best self!
Stop putting yourself down in your thoughts and words. You believe what you tell yourself, and other people believe what you say about yourself, too. If you think or say something unkind about yourself, immediately think or say at least two positive statements about yourself.
Do something you’re good at every day. It doesn’t matter what it is. If you have excellent penmanship you can hand-write a note. If you’re an artist, create something!
You do something great every day- what did you do today? Celebrate your accomplishment! You did it!
Minding other people’s business is an effective way to drive yourself, and others, crazy! You can’t control other people but you can make the best of your life. If you find yourself becoming preoccupied with another person’s behavior, stop and focus your attention on the task in front of you.
Oh, mistakes. Everyone makes them, but not everyone makes the best of them. Mistakes are nothing to be ashamed of- they are opportunities to improve. Hold your head high and move forward!
Everyone has flaws and your flaws don’t make you a bad person- you’re only human. Accept your shortcomings, don’t judge them. It’s okay to be flawed. Extend your acceptance to others, too.
When you’re faced with a difficult decision, avoid reacting emotionally. Instead, respond with dignity and grace. Be someone you can be proud of. Feel good about you!Join the Conversation