My biggest lesson this past year has been learning it is better to receive than give. This is the lesson that has contributed the most to my business success.
Yeah, you read that right, I said it is better to RECEIVE than GIVE.
I was raised to believe the opposite is true- that is better to give than receive. And am I ever a giver. I give and give and give. I give to everyone and everything. If I have anything leftover, I’ll give a little to myself, too. But therein lies one of my problems, you see, I was giving to myself last.
Putting myself last meant I had poor work-life balance. My health suffered. I was burned out at work. And, this giving behavior was limiting my potential. I recently realized I need to be a lot more selfish if I’m going to achieve my BIG DREAMS.
I was so busy giving, I never really learned to receive. In fact, I suck at receiving.
I deflect compliments. On the rare occasion I accept a compliment, I will immediately return your compliment with gratitude so I don’t really have to let it in. Or maybe sometimes I’ll allow your appreciation in if I know really, really earned it.
I’m uncomfortable being the center of attention. I am a better hostess than guest.
I will go above and beyond for you, but I don’t really need much help, thanks. I only want what’s fair, and maybe then I’ll still feel a little guilty for whatever I get.
My worth is valued by how much I give. I can only receive as part of an exchange and you’ll probably get more than you give with me.
You see what I mean. I suck at receiving.
What does it mean to receive?
verb | re·ceive |\ri-ˈsēv\
2: to act as a receptacle or container for
3a : to permit to enter : admit
4: to accept as authoritative, true, or accurate : believe
5a : to support the weight or pressure of : bear
In order to receive, I have to come into possession of your appreciation. Worse yet, I have to act as a receptacle or container for you admiration. I have to admit and welcome your praise. I have to believe your compliments and accept them as truth. I have to support the weight of your gratitude.
Why is receiving such an important skill?
Because to be successful in life we have to receive.
We have to be comfortable receiving appreciation from our clients and colleagues. We have to believe it’s true. We have to allow other people’s admiration bolster us- to embolden us!
We have to receive so we can move forward even when we’re scared. So we feel encouraged to take the next big leap. So we can stretch the limits of our comfort zone and grow into our full potential.
Are you living up to your potential? How are you at receiving? What could you accomplish if you were better at receiving?
Learning how to receive
I’ve been learning to receive through the Art of Feminine Presence® body of work. If you’re ready to receive inspiration, impact, and income, I’m starting a series of Art of Feminine Presence® classes in Fort Collins in May. Join me for the introductory class.
In the pursuit of a career, or having to take care of so many people around them, many women have disconnected from their feminine essence and their personal presence without realizing it. This affects everything. From fulfillment in our work, the state of our health, and to the unfortunate situation of women competing against women everywhere.
This class is for empowered women who:
- Want to show up in a bigger way
- Are afraid of putting themselves out there, even though they know they want more from life
- Are wanting to increase their income through their business or career
- Want to stop people from draining their energy
In this class you’ll learn:
- A simple practice to instantly gain respect and recognition from colleagues and clients
- How to make a great impression in new situations like networking groups, interviews, and sales conversations
- Learn to follow your “higher guidance” rather than push to make things happen.